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The money that I EARN belongs to me right? If i want to buy something with MY money,my mom says I cant spend my own money on it because she says it's "not worth it". IIN?
If it's money your earned in a real, proper job and you're over 18, you should be able to spend it how you like. If those conditions aren't true, then you should let her have her way.
To all the people saying that the OP's mum is trying to teach him/her good spending habits: I think that's a load of crap. You don't learn not to do something by being banned from doing it. If anything, being forcibly prevented from overspending makes you want to spend more. What she should be doing is letting her kid make mistakes and learn from those mistakes; that is how people learn.
Came here to say this. Though if OP is under 18 and working a job for their own money, I still don't think the parent should control that, unless they're trying to spend *all* their savings on ridiculous shit.
But banning someone from doing something will not teach them anything. They'll just want to go out and figure things out on their own because it's something they could never do, and it would probably make them more likely to make rash decisions because once they go do it, they'll be so excited to finally be using that money that it would be far too easy to go overboard.
My parents tried to control my life and just look how I turned out. ;P
if you wanna buy a drug thats ok for her to not let you but if its a new makeup kit WTF SHES A RETARD
Listen to her you jackass. You are pathetic. She's teaching you how to spend money wisely.
You are aware of the fact that parents aren't ideal people. My mum used my money on several occasions to but ME stuff that I didn't want, nor had a use for, just so that she could use them.
All in all my parents and I are proponents for the approach of learning through mistakes. I had my money ( birthday, Xmas, allowance, clothes money, lunch money etc.) and was allowed to spend it anyway I wished. It was a given that if I bought garbage I'd regret it and learn from the experience.
This is different dude. His mother is teaching the same thing here but in a different way. This way of learning from mistakes may be good for you or a few other people but may be his mother knows he won't learn that way. The way he chose his wrods her tells me that this guy has issues
fullhouse ur full of shit that is not how to teach someone how to use money properly we learn thru our mistakes if anything ur the jackass for calling the person asking a legit question a jackass
You should obey. You might think it's unfair but your mum is probably the wiser of you two.
If it is given to you as an allowance from her, this is normal. If this is money that you legitimately earned through a job, then I have mixed feelings. If you're over 18, have kids, and live under her roof and don't pay rent, it is understandable why she may do this. If you are under 18, she shouldn't do this. If you are living on your own, then she has no business in what you spend.
She's probably just trying to help you out and not binge on unnecessary junk. You may be grateful later on that you did save your money
agreed however i don't think parents should be angry at their kids for simple mistakes like this i remember a few months ago i bought me an msi gaming laptop from my 1400 stimulus check i pretty much live on my own i pay my own rent buy my own food but because my apartment is only considered as a bedroom because it doesn't have a kitchen or a shower and I have to go into my mom's house to take a five minute shower every couple of days she got utterly pissed because i spent 1300 on my laptop instead of saving it ps im also a legal adult at 19 years old and I now have a part time job
if you are under 18, by law, your mother has the authority to decide things like that for you, because anyone under 18 lacks the mental capacity to make any decision, but your older/wiser mother does certainly know better. this is why people under 18 aren't criminally charged in the same way as adults, and why minors can't enter into any contracts without a co-signer.
This is normal depending on your age. My parents were the same way. when i was in like 6th grade my friend got a Palm Pilot, and i thought it was really cool. and i had $250 so i was like, i want a Palm Pilot, but at first my parents wouldn't let me get it, saying it was a waste of money and I didn't need it. But i convinced them to let me use MY money how I please, and they let me make my own mistake, i bought the PDA, and it was the biggest waste of money of my life, and i wished i had listened to my parents, but I did learn a valuable lesson, and it's stuff like that that parents need to let their children make their own mistakes instead of sheltering them their entire life.
Maybe she just wants you to save your money and is telling you indirectly.
Wait until you want to buy your own car. My mother ends up picking it and I choose something else. She is never happy with my choice of vehicle because she cannot drive it.
I think the lesson she's aiming for here is that spending your own money on crap means that you won't have your own money to spend on something useful, in a the near future.
I know what she's trying to do but is sounds like she isn't being clear about it. She's trying to save it for you Because one day you will want to buy a car or something. Trust her foresight but talk about what you would like to spend your money on right now. She is trying to get to to assess your own priorities.
Depends on your age. I'm underage, and I receive an allowance every week. If my mom started changing things and telling what to or what to not buy with my money, I'd have no choice but to obey her even thought the money doesn't come from her. It would be the same if I had a job. So yes, it's normal.