Is it normal that my mom and i already planned for her death?
When I was 18, my Mom told me that she listed me in her will as the executor of her estate.
She told me about the life insurance, how much was divided between all three of us (I got the most, my sister got slightly less and the least to my younger brother), and then told me that she wanted to be cremated and thrown into the ocean from Hawaii and the funeral is my choice.
She told me to do whatever I want with the rest of the insurance and to cut costs wherever so I can have as much left for myself as I want. She then told me that what is to be done with her property (as far as distribution to my siblings etc) is my discretion and what is to be done with the life insurance until my brother is 18 (if she dies before then) is my discretion.
She even had me agree to pull the plug if she ever goes into a coma and becomes a vegetable. She told me to pull it myself if need be. I also have power of attorney.
Personally, I plan on doing what is best with her property and distributing it to whomever I feel can make the best use out of it, but I wonder if it is normal for a healthy, middle aged parent to have this conversation with their 18 year old daughter. We've had it several times before but not this in depth until I was 18, and even now she mentions it. Is this normal?