Is it normal that my life is messed up?

My life feels like a movie script. I had a boyfriend and I was so in love with him. We talked a lot about what it would be like when we got married someday. Then he broke up with me and I was so depressed and heartbroken. It was probably the worst I've ever felt in my whole life. During our relationship I became friends with his best friend. So then, less than a week after the breakup, his best friend asked me out and I started dating him. We've been together for 3 months. At first I thought I was in love with my new boyfriend, but now I don't even think about him that much. And since he's my ex's best friend, I always have to hear about my ex. And a few times the 3 of us have hung out together. I'm a lot better than I was at first, but I'm still sad about my ex. I miss him and wish we were still together. At first when I got my new boyfriend I thought I was so in love with him, but now I don't know. I don't think about him that much anymore. I only think about my ex. And I don't know if I mean it when I tell my new boyfriend I love him. When he says, "I love you" I have to force myself to say, "I love you too." I don't want to say it. I don't feel like I mean it when I say it. He is such a nice and sweet guy and he's so good to me, but I only think about my ex. At this point it doesn't seem like my ex will ever get back together with me. My new boyfriend is going to join the military, and I said I don't want to go with him, so he said when he leaves we're going to break up. But he still wants to date until then.

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  • kingofcarrotflowers

    That's a messed up life? really?

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  • Peptox

    You need to woman up and be honest with them and yourself. Take time to grow as a person and go from there.

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  • spark007

    That's completely normal, I don't refer to that as a "messed up" life. What I would do is just accept the fact that you are going to break up with your current boyfriend once he goes to the military, because you don't have feelings for him, right? But you might want to say one last "I love you" to him before he goes, then, poof!
    Most likely you can't be with your ex again, but you never know what will happen. You have a normal teen life, trust me ;)

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  • FriendlyAnswers

    .............. Ok

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  • suckonthis9

    You will need to be honest and forthcoming with your current boyfriend, as I feel that he is becoming too attached to you, and you're going the other way.
    You will need to speak with him, either directly or indirectly (through someone else you know and trust, if you are uncomfortable with confronting him directly).
    You should be actively looking for a new mate, and you should make this intention known to him.
    If he is reasonable, then you might be able to negotiate to preserve the status quo, for the time being, but to help one another find a new partner. Once this has been accomplished, then you would amicably separate.
    This is what is called a mutual separation.

    One other thing that I noticed, is how you seem to take ownership of your boyfriends. You should try to avoid this, and seek a mutual partnership instead.

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  • NeuroNeptunian

    Leave them both. Seriously. Cut them off and move on with your life. There are plenty of great guys out there. I know right now it seems like your ex is the only guy you'll ever truly love or want to be with but you'll meet someone else eventually and you'll look back and wonder what the hell you were even thinking with them.

    Source: Experience.

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  • ccjigsaw

    That's a crap situation. I'd break up with your current boyfriend on the premise that there's no future with him. Don't get back together with your ex though. It'll just be heart break all over again. Best way to get over your ex? DISTANCE!

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  • Darkoil

    Two words.........spit roast.

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