Is it normal that my immidiate family is all depressed?

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Is it normal that me, my two brothers and mother are all depressed? I've been depressed for a while because of my dad "leaving" when I was young, I say "leaving" because he only moved half an hour drive away, but he managed to distance himself from me and my two brothers a lot. I know it hit us all pretty hard, I used to think I was the only one, but recently they've gotten to a point where they cant hold their depression in anymore. I've always been the empathetic of the three, I'm the middle child. And they both came to me to talk, there was 6 years between the two of them, im right in the middle so I can see why. And my mom is depressed because she doesn't have anyone other than the three of us and we're all at that leaving age and she's so alone, she tries dating but she lost the one guy she thought she could see a future with. Again, because I'm the most empathetic she came to me to talk about it, and I don't mind helping people, I've always been good at giving advice(somehow bad at taking my own) But I'm getting to a point where their problems are outweighing mine and I feel like I have to help them before me and I forget about a lot of my own to try and help them, but at the end of the day when I start to think about my own problems theirs pile on top and I feel so overwhelmed.. I don't know what to do, I know my mom's suggested a counselor but neither of my brother nor I like the idea, we feel too much condescension from our experiences with them in the past. It'd just be nice to know I'm not the only person in the world in a situation like this, and any advice would be appreciated. Thanks

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  • sarcasmplease
    9 years ago

    Studies have shown that disorders such as depression, anxiety, etc. can be caused by genetics. My family has this same problem; my grandmother, mom, aunts, uncle, and father all had either depression or anxiety, and that has been passed on to me. While that doesn't make it any easier, talking to a therapist or taking medication prescribed by a doctor can help.

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  • Johnnytherat
    9 years ago

    i wanna troll this but.... its like my childhood in text right infront of me, ive been in the same exact position except my "dad" was an abusive drunk. i was the guy who took in everybodys problems. an when it came time to move on with my life they kept metaphorically pulling me back and i let it happen over an over again. i gave my family 3 years of a crucial point in my life i'm 21 now and just barely getting to the point where i'm living on my own.I semi-regret being the bearer of everyones bs partly because as much as i put into helping them and giving advice it never seemed to change anything. and i've noticed its left me jaded. dont be everyones crying shoulder for too long. At some point you gotta move on and build your own life instead of living in the shadow of your mom and dads failed relationship.

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