Is it normal that my husband want to sleep with his mother

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My mother in law wants my husband to sleep with her atleast 4 times in a week..and she make me sleep in hall room and she sleeps in bed room(not sexually involved)she wants him to be under her controll.and next 3 days my husband and me sleeps in hall room,we have one bedroom hall kitchen..she has never allowed us to sleep any time in bedroom..neither my husband has opposed her anytime..my brother in law broke his marriage because of her same attitude..we keep on fighting on this..its been 2 yrs of marriage we have son too.Am i over reacting on this because we fight almost every week and fight is on her mothers behaviour..please help..

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  • LostinU
    12 years ago

    you should tell your husband to be A MAN .. HE SHOULD TAKE HIS OWN DECISION FROM HIMSELF AND ACTS LIKE A MAN !!!!! like that you are not married to a MAN at all !!!!!!!!

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  • joybird
    12 years ago

    WOW!

    If you are living with her then call in Social Services to ask them if this would affect your son ;o) You need to publicise her behaviour so that it will stop!! Pretend to be stupid and that you just asked for their advice.

    If she is living with you. Then, throw her out! Get the police to remove her.

    Make sure both your husband and her, hear you telling everyone that you come into contact with, about them sleeping together. For example, health visitors for your son, doctor, neighbours, friends, etc. This is the only way to stop this if your husband hasn't got the balls to stand up to her!!!

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    • mishu33sri
      12 years ago

      Thank u all for responding...after all this as i dont want to stay with her..my husband is forcing me stay with her...My husband has seen her doing all this stuff to my sister in law who den left..after seeing all this still he supports her in doing nuisence whta does it mean he cannot see what is going on.. i dont want to ruin my marriage with my son.What exactly could be done without ruining my marriage with my son..

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      • joybird
        12 years ago

        I don't know if this is normal in your culture but it really sounds very very strange!! I honestly think that your mother in law is mentally ill. There must be some religious leader that you can speak to. Surely there is another son if your sister in law left. Perhaps you need to move house so that you have at least 2 bedrooms, otherwise where is your own child going to sleep as he gets older.

        I'd say he adores his mother and thinks you are unreasonable if it has always been the way but if there's no sex (yuck) you should not be excluded. This woman needs to leave you alone to get your family sorted out - send her to her other son.

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        • mishu33sri
          12 years ago

          My brother in law is nt ready to keep her with him as she has already spoiled his marriage.problem is not with big house even if we have big house she wants her son to sleep with her becoz he is been sleeping with her since childhood otherwise she feels lonely.my husband finds its normal sleeping with mother that is y he has never opposed her.anytime..and it is not at all in indian culture...My husband wants to keep her (and make me to do everythng for her like a maid.she treats me just like a maid) rather she will nt leave him to stay alone otherwise she starts singing raga of raising son doing so much for them..cmon evrybody does for their children..she is not only one..My husband is Introvert he cannot say her anythng back neither he can stay out of her..she holda him badly and to sme extent my husband is also holding her dat is y he ignores her all bad deeds as he has done in past with my sister in law..

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          • joybird
            12 years ago

            So your brother in law won't help you save your marriage.

            Are you afraid of violence?

            If not, I would do nothing for either of them! If you go out to work I would not return until they had gone to bed and I would leave my son with them both. Tell them you hope that they will both be very happy together but you are no slave!!

            You could always put on headphones or cotton wool in your ears so that you cannot hear her instructions.

            Down tools until your husband learns to respect you too - his mother has had her time.

            Tell everyone you know about this and make the two of them look very strange but you must remove yourself from that house as much as possible.
            Have you been able to speak to your own family about this for their advice?

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            • joybird
              12 years ago

              Just had a thought. She is 'lonely' she needs to grow up!!

              Or you could buy her a little dog that she could love and have it sleep with her :o) Sounds like she needs a lapdog!

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  • Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress
    12 years ago

    "she sleeps in bed room(not sexually involved)"

    I call BS on that one. it sounds very sexual indeed. if not on his part than on hers...

    if he's an adult male she needs to find her own bed-partner.

    as a wife you are suppose to come first. your husband needs to be warming your bed at night, not his mommy's.

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  • Megid
    12 years ago

    Why does your husband still live with his mother?

    Are you guys a teenage couple?

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    • mishu33sri
      12 years ago

      Because she doesnt want her son to stay alone with his wife..she has raised him and all is her rights that her son should only take care for her..we are from india and in late 20s..according to her daughter in law should do everytng for her and house and in return she will keep her son to her only..son should not do anythng for his wife...

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  • DwayneHicks
    12 years ago

    Holy shit...that crazy ass woman needs to go...I hope this is a joke...not normal at all!

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    • mishu33sri
      12 years ago

      thanks for replyng but unfortunately it is true...i found my dream man but his mom keeps us apart..we together cannot go out..we cannot talk on fone..also she didnt allow him to visit to doctor during my pregnnancy but my husband did hiding from her..she told me to climb platform for cleaning during my 6th month of pregnancy...

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      • sheilarae1987
        12 years ago

        take her to 'the home' Shady Pines anyone?

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  • Longduckdon
    5 years ago

    When you marry a man your mother marrys him too ! Get over it and share!

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  • swmil
    8 years ago

    Your husband is shooting loads into your mom in law

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  • Ellenna
    9 years ago

    I do get annoyed when I find a fascinating thread like this one where I'm really feeling sorry for OP and wishing her well ........ and we never found out what happened!

    Is she still there? Did she leave? Did she poison her mother-in-law and/or her husband? Did mil pass on eventually and they all lived happily ever after?

    Grrrrrr I must remember to read the last few posts in future, BEFORE I get hooked on a story with no resolution

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  • 1000yrVampireKing
    11 years ago

    No you should not treat your mother badly. You should not treat your wife poorly either. However he is making a chioce to be a 5 year old and suck on his thumb. Mommy here is making sure he stay a child forever. Peter pan is not real and he does not need to be in her arms anymore. You need to set limits about how close you are to a child after a certien age. This is not right or normal. GET A REAL MAN! You should not be dealing with his issues. Since ovboiusly he is never going to fix them on his own. Make him fix this or leave. If he will not do it yourself.

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  • 1000yrVampireKing
    11 years ago

    Firstly she needs to let him grow up and be a man. She is cradling him and this is not healthy. I think you should file for a divorce because your husband is too much of a baby tell his mother HE IS NOT A LITTLE BOY ANYMORE. People need to grow up sometimes and it seems like he just doesn't want to. I would get your things and leave or kick out his mother. If your husband does not agree with kicking her out fuck him and go. If he does not want you to leave he make a choice to GROW UP!

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  • D.J
    11 years ago

    change ur house take 2bhk room .and console ur husband to take it.control ur husband with love and kindly.turn his love to his mom to his son.be a smart wife that u r

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  • Avant-Garde
    11 years ago

    O_0 How could it not be sexual?! That woman has some serious problems.

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  • XxBlackSheepxX
    12 years ago

    hahahahahahahaha!

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  • iluvme22
    12 years ago

    that is not normal. why is your mother in law even living with you and your husband?!!!

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  • chadams
    12 years ago

    Do you want your son to grow up and think this behavior is normal? Sorry to tell you but it will never change. Your husband is treating you badly. There are men out there who love their wives and put them at the center of their universe. Either find a way to accept it or leave.

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  • emilydoll
    12 years ago

    ... Uhhhh def NOT normal.

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  • ZinZin
    12 years ago

    Ur mommy in law is a 'Monster in law' Tell her politely that her son is no longer a baby but a grown up man who can make his decisions himself and you as being his wife have every right to sleep with him and have sex with him whenever you like.If she dont listen to the second time repeat the same words and the third time burst with fury and shout at her 'Yo pedophile bitch! I 'll report ya 2 the police ya mofo bitch for makin yar son who is a man with his own fucking kids sleepin with ya! ' If she STILL does not listen to you just tell your husband you wo should either move with your kids and if he wont agree with you getta divorce. :) P.S Tell you're mother in law I hate her and she is such a pedophile bitch. :)

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  • Audrina
    12 years ago

    Leave! Nothing good will come of this if you continue to put up with this crap. Say good riddance to bad rubbish and move on.

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  • DwayneHicks
    12 years ago

    I don't like your mother in law....

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