Is it normal that my husband spend so much time with my female cousin?

I think he just needs a friend and something to do since he is out of work.

so he's spending time with her and sometimes your mom

have you considered that he's talking about her because that's the big thing in the day right now, getting out of the house to talk to family?

I would not be pleased. He can go make some guy pals. Even if he's not doing anything, you know how women are. Cousin or not.

Maybe you can all have a threesome?

No. You should encourage them both to look for jobs.

I agree. If they're not having sex yet, then surely they are on the road to it. At the very least they are engaging in an emotional affair. She is beginning to replace you as his partner and that's not cool. And I seriously doubt that 'love' text was an accident she intended to send to someone else... Something is going on. You need to put it all on the table and give him an ultimatum. after all, YOU are the one supporting the household.

No it's not normal, but it's 100% YOUR fault! Kick his unemployed ass to the curb and find a man with a job!

I understand your feelings, but be careful not to push them into each others arms, but drop the subject and encourage him to find work or new hobbie!

They are well shagging.

There is a yes and no answer, maybe they are planning a surprise or something or maybe he just fell in love. I'm sorry if you are jealous. Best of luck xx

its not normal dear. you should confront him, maybe he likes your female cousin or they have relation. but, don't jump to conclusion, maybe he just need someone to talk with whenever your not around. be frank to them. tell them that you do not feel comfortable when they are together. but maybe he will be angry if you will confront them, when this happens, i think, they have relation.

You should suck him and fuck him to remind him how awesomes you are.

You are right I dont fully trust him but that is because he has done things in the past to lose my trust and im still working on getting over what happens in the past. His unemployment doesn't bother me he still handles his responsibilities in our house and I want him to focus fully when he starts college.

Wait a minute... If we men hang out with girls alot and talk about it we are automatically sleeping with them? Wow. .. I must be getting laid more than I think.

1. You don't trust him, of course that upsets him. How would you feel?
2. Telling him to leave off her is not going to help. Not only do you not trust him but you now try to control him. (Marriage is a partnership)
3. Try and make him feel guilty, without confronting him directly or rubbing it in his face. That way he will make his own decision, increasing the chances of him spending less time with her. Everything else will imo lead to a confrontation no-one will win.

4. How come unemployed wives are fine, but unemployed husbands are apparently scum?

so what? you can join them
2 females and one guy sounds good
1 female and 2 guys sounds bad :D

I would like to pull them apart a bit but i dont want to damage my relationship with my cousin, the thought of "what if it is all just innocent" pops in my head and discourages me from taking action. I have thought about showing other guys attention so that he would feel and understand me but two wrongs are not going to get us no where and I feel like doing that would be me lowering myself. I don't think I deserve this I mean I know I'm not a perfect wife but I work hard maintain my home I'm very attentive to his needs and I've always been faithful to him

I'd be mad to. If I told my boyfriend I was jelouse about it, he would just tell me I'm being cute. ~.~ It might help to mention it makes you uncomfortable though. If he's not doing anything wrong, he won't flip out at you for being human.

I don't think that they are having sex but I am afraid that if they keep spending so much time together they might fall for each other. I've noticed little changes in him, he was not a morning person but for the past few weeks he is up and texting her as soon as i leave for work. I also feel like she is replacing me in a way, she cooks him breakfast in the morning and after they go grab a coffee from the new coffee spot in town I wasn't even aware this place was being open but they already had plans to together I feel like I should have been the 1st person he would think to invite. What also seems weird to me is that they can txt all day but as soon as in around the texting stops, I saw a txt from her and it read "what's your shirt size amor(love)" he didn't reply so I'm not sure if the txt was intended for my husband or if she just meant to send that to her boyfriend. I honestly don't know how to deal with this situation I don't want to push my husband or cousin away but I don't want to be made a fool of.

Don't be jealous come and spend some "breakfast" time with me

Guys and girls only get together to fuck... Unless they are friend zoned, but i never heard of family zoned so they are fucking. Since he talks about her a lot, he is infatuated with her(or her small pussy)

Jewish or not, that's not kosher.

i don't think its normal.one of my friend going through with same problem her husband spends most of his with his female cousin(widowed)he shares all his secrets with her,hangout with her.whenever he goes somewhere with his family he picks her 1st and still he said that i don't have any wrong intentions for her:/

That's what I tried telling him, I feel really uncomfortable with the amount of attention he is giving her but he just gets mad and tells me that I'm sick for thinking wrong because he considers her his cousin too. I asked him to put himself in my shoes and try to imagine what he would feel like if the tables where turned but he just gets mad.

I don't wanna alarm you darling but I've watched enough episodes of Maury and Jerry Springer to know that they are sexin each other. If they aren't yet, they've definitely thought about it or almost came close. I would immediately tell them you don't feel comfortable with this.