Is it normal that my husband loves my pussy and should that turn me on?

I've been married to my husband for almost 8 years. He says he loves my pussy and I believe him but I guess I never thought this would happen.

I never had much pleasure of my own in sex until this relationship and my pleasure was never focused on until my husband. I never thought anything of myself in that way and don't really express myself sexually. Even now with a husband who still goes down on me and makes me orgasm almost every single night before he does, I still can't seem to enjoy this like he says I could.

After having talked about this stuff with him in the past, I shared that I was self conscious about myself down there and I can't seem to get over that enough to really enjoy " giving it to him".. He said he just wants to see me relaxed enough to really experience the pleasure he gives me so I can enjoy it but instead no matter how obviously attracted to me he is, I can't believe he actually wants it in a way that doesn't just end in him orgasming like most men do.

I've seen other women write things about letting thier men taste them, or talking confidently about enjoying pleasure but I don't seem to be able to do that and I have a man who's willing to do anything I want but I struggle to let myself want things. He makes me orgasm every single night almost and yet I rely on him taking the initiative to do it because I can't ask myself and when he does, I am quiet and sort of still. I want to enjoy giving him what I know he loves which is my pussy, and I want to enjoy getting what I ask for gut I can't get there.....

What do I do, is this at all normal? Why can't I just take and explore the potential for my own sexual pleasure?

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  • Waste

    Heck, my girl loves how i eat her and how manybtimes i make her have orgasms at a time. Pulling my cock from her pussy and put it in her mouth not only turns me on but she gets hotter too. We have many fantasies that are really hot and we always start with sensuality. The greater the sensuality mixed with fantasy the greater the sex. You have to create with your girl what she likes and that’s a question for her. Ask her and make improvements to the way she wants it.

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  • strangethingshappen

    Lesbian sex is way more intense.

    A woman knows what a woman wants

    You straight folk don't know what you're missing

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    • hinsanu

      you live in ny by any chance?

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  • CDmale4fem

    I'm thinking early on in life your sexual experiences were rather extremely less than pleasant. You had become used to the part where men try really hard to not even have to take you to dinner. So many just want the "wham, bamm, thank you ma'am". It's a sad part of society these days. Along with kids not getting the discipline they need these days, the males seem to forget (or are not being taught) a basic lesson in life, "Treat a Lady like a Lady". (Until they gives you reason not to). But anyway, so many guys these days want everything for nothing. They don't feel they should let or encourage the female to orgasm before the man does, so that he in turn shows the woman that he's not a selfish jackass. ANYWAY, women get so used to that kind of treatment, so they feel in their mind it's something about them, and it just really cuts into their self esteem even further. Women become numb to being treated like crap. Then it becomes a "fune, just fuck me, Get off me, and Get the hell out. It being so hard to meet a guy that will treat women as the deserve. So it's a cycle, it comes to point of survival and then low self esteem leads to not much sex or not many partners even kicks the self esteem even further down. So there in turn when the women do meet someone that WILL AND DOES love them as they are, it's so hard for them to forget the past treatment and the emotional climb to Get out of that rut they have been in. It's obvious your man loves you, and your pussy. Be thankful he puts forth that effort even 3-5 times a week would seem like a miracle. But you say every night. I have done things over the years and there was a few times I would not worry much about "her" needs, desires, and wants. But once a friend I went to school with, she was separated from her husband heading to D court.Like you she had a hard time when it came to just laying back, take a deep breath, and above all, relaxing.So we were naked, I had her lay down on couch, then I put blindfold on he. I took her hands and out then under her butt cheeks so she was sitting on them. I turn lights down low, and told her to just concentrate on whatever she feels.I used things like ice cubes, feather, my fingers w and w/o oil, and various things while encouraging her to express what she feels or was feeling.
    It really helped her to open up, and a few years later a mutual friend of ours told me that up to that point in life, I had given her the best sexual experience of her life. (Up to that point,anyway) I apologize for being so long.

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  • Nickvey

    i like to pull my cock out of a woman and jizz in her mouth , its a test i do to women . if they fail then its over. they either drop me or i drop them . but it is always over.

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  • ANALRAPIST

    This was obviously written by a very lonely man, nice shitpost there buddy. 5 Paragraphs of this bullshit, really? Get a job. If you were really the sexually repressed woman you're roleplaying as, you wouldnt use words like Pussy.

    In case you are serious: Of course your husband is supposed to love your pussy and turn you on, unless you are in a mutually asexual relationship, or you are his 'beard'.

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    • Jaybird921

      Wow, not sure where to start.

      I am a woman, I am serious and, I live in a new state with noone I feel comfortable talking to about this. So thanks for that.

      Your ending was helpful as I really felt something is wrong with me. Thanks but I wish you could have just been nice from the start. I feel embarrassed and I thought this was a place where ppl are more understanding and less judgemental.

      And btw I say cock and pussy because vagina seems medical and gross and I've never heard anyone refer to it and other way in person so wtf...

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      • ANALRAPIST

        Alright sorry, tbh I did not read the full post just the title and was like, wtf, it sounded like an obvious troll. I added the last bit after skimming the post more thuroughly.

        personally i would've said CUNT to convey how negatively you apparently feel towards it, but i'm guessing if you're american that's gonna be even more harsh. but pussy means slut vag imo. moving on

        There are very few non-trolls on this site just a heads up, You're gonna get way worse answers than mine but Im sure you'll get some better answers too.

        I would be more helpful but 1.this is fairly common, nothin much to worry about, 2. depends on why you're like this

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