Is it normal that my husband looks careless about having first child

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I was marred for 10 years and have two children 13 and 10 from my previous marriage. I have been with my 2nd husband for 5 years now. We wore in Europe over the summer and we are pregnant. He is the one that always talked about it. I personaly didn't care if I have any more kids. So I'm having this child for him and because I love him and can't be selfish. Now that im 16 weeks it feels like he really don't care. Im super happy and every time I ask him if he is happy he sais " ahmmm ". I do expect some attention and I get NON. Its possibly because I had kids before but I think it should not metter. Its starting to hurt my fellings to the point that I had to say it to him and he simply said to me if you are not getting what you think you should go had and find someone else. What?
Is he just not knowing how to cope. Will he come oround?

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  • Gabriela
    11 years ago

    @Thingingaboutit.. thats exactly my problem as they say above maybe he don't know how to deal with it. Reason I say this is becose he is the most loving and caring person. I even asked him if he charged his mind and don't want kin any more. He said No. But thats all he sais. Is it possible that I expect to much. C os in this case I was waithing to hear him say something like ....I want nothig more in my life thanvto have baby with you..... so last night I told him, just to se what he sais. That I have about one more week that I can have abortion (all doe I would never).. and that is up to him. I was like let me know beforeb is to late. He ggot up and went to bad. How abou that. . Im so freacking mad. And he is working 15 hrs a day so time that we do spend together iss not what it usto be ...

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  • bristexai
    11 years ago

    Maybe it's just how he deals with strong emotions.

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  • Terence_the_viking
    11 years ago

    So he says he wants kids thne he treats you like this. Maybe he will change when he actually see's the baby.

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  • thinkingaboutit
    11 years ago

    He tells you to go ahead and find someone else? Really? While your pregnant? Does that not strike you as one of the most fucked up things a would-be father could say to his pregnant wife. If someone told you their spouse treated them like that, what would you think?

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  • chocolatepizzayeah
    11 years ago

    Maybe it's an uncomfortable subject for him to talk about and this is how he deals with big happenings.

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  • NotFloydzie
    11 years ago

    I was thinking the same thing that Poe just commented. Some men grow fonder of the child after is born and they get to see it and hold it. Just wait. Try to keep your emotions in control, but tell him how you feel about his attitude towards it.

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