Is it normal that my husband keeps all his freinds seprated from me?

I think he's a closet homo and is cheating on you with his "friends".

Hey, dear. I have some advice for you, LEAVE THE RELATIONSHIP NOW!

Your husband seems like nothing but a selfish jerk and you are not his slave. Maybe you should first talk to him about his behavior, and then leave. Not for you, but also for him as well. Then maybe, if you leave, he will realize how much of an pisshead he acted in the relationship, and hopefully will get help.

And, also, how does your husband even have friends? If I was a jerk like him I certainly wouldn't have any freinds.

I agree. He is living a double (gay) life. Or at least, this is fair speculation.

Divorce him. Take his home away from him and see how much of his friends will jump to his resque. Its obvious you dont realise you are being used and I think you should take some self pride and not let someone walk all over you. Divorce him and if you dont take action then you are to blame for the pain you feel because you are letting it happen.

people need to have freindships outside of their marriage. I can't believe that so many people are supporting your disgusting self serving attitude. Stop being a jelous life sucker and demanding that the world revolve around you.

u need to find proof hes cheating, (he OBVIOUSLY is!) and, get a lawyer and take his sleazy ass to rhe cleaners!!

You already know the answer to your problem. Now it's time to pull up your big girl panties and beat feet.

You truly deserve better than that. There's a limit and he passed it. I'm sorry that you have endured this from him. I don't understand his behavior because I'm the total opposite of him but he seriously doesn't have you in his priority list when he should. Like others have said, leaving him would be something to really consider. Do you want to stay with that man who gives you no attention or affection and even lies to you and puts friends in front of you? I hope you'll follow what you believe is right and find happiness. I hate hearing how horribly women get treated by their other half that's supposed to keep them happy and loved. Good luck to you.

You know, the first thing I thought is that he might be gay from all that you described. But, at any rate, this is not a strong marriage. Life is short. Give it a shot in counseling (IF he'll agree to it) or move on. I know that sounds overly simplified after 20 years of being with him, but I don't think you should waste one more minute feeling unloved and abandoned.

I know it can be tricky to maintain a house and manage bills but don't use it as an excuse to stay angry. I am sorry for your situation. You are being treated unfairly but you are also allowing it to happen. I think anyone would be lonely and angry if they were in your situation. If you know he isn't going to invite you places, don't expect it. Make your own plans. What do you want to do? It's never too late to learn who you are.

He's definitely trying to isolate you from having a life and friends of your own he's going on vacations without you? That's absurd and to be honest he's cheating on you all the signs are there he claims to be too drunk to drive home its just an excuse to spend the night with his mistress or mistresses I'm sorry that you're going through this right now at 54 its really not too late to start over men like your husband never change you're living in a put up or shut up situation and that's not what marriage is about by the way I don't think you're co dependent. Good luck

It sounds like he treats you like shit, cheats on you and just all round acts like a dick. You don't need people like that in your life.