Is it normal that my husband is this dominating?

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I am a young wife. My husband is 10 years older, tall and handsome. Life would be great, except he is REALLY dominant. I am submissive sexually, so I thought it would be fine. But he gets over the top. If I don't do the housework well enough he spanks me with a paddle and a belt until I shake and cry. He won't let me go anywhere alone, and he yells at me and bosses me around. He makes me give him rimjobs and blowjobs all the time. But at the end of the day he tells me he's kinda mean, but only because he loves me more than anything, and holds me, and says he's sorry it's so hard. He says I make him feel amazing, and that I am the world's best wife. I don't know what to think. I do love him very much...and couldn't live without him I think.

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  • Duckman984
    12 years ago

    Stop at the beating part. Dump his ass. The blowjob and rimjob stuff is fine. Girls should suck cock frequently for the men their with, but the beating is not, even remotely, acceptable. Neither is the controlling behavior.

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  • xxDreamWeaverxx
    12 years ago

    It's abusive. He might mean the things he's saying, but he obviously has issues, so DO NOT STAY WITH HIM! You're being abused, and I know it's hard but he's manipulating and controlling you!

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  • georgienne
    12 years ago

    This sounds normal, he's just not aware of your limits. You haven't spoken up, so he doesn't know what you do and don't like. You crying could be an act so he feels more dominant.
    Talk to him about what you do and don't like, get a safe word (now!) so he stops on the dime when you say it, and make sure he knows every one of your comfort zones. He can't change if you won't tell him the problem.

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    • coocoo49
      11 years ago

      Dude you ARE clueless. Kicking and beating your girlfriend is NOT normal in any way. It is WRONG. No guy has a right to physically touch a woman.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      12 years ago

      But the thing is I HAVE spoken, or at least tried too. I say, "that hurts too much, please don't be so mean, etc." but he just says, "who do you think is the man here? Do you want to try and fight me?" And gets madder and beats me harder. Things are easier when I bend over backwards to please him without complaining.

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  • moomus
    12 years ago

    You make him feel so amazing he has to beat you? He's the one who needs a beating. Run fast and don't look back!!

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