Is it normal that my husband expects me to be a housewife like...?

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My hubby just told me I'm lazy because I didnt have dinner on time. He said he wished his mother was here to cook. She has done everything for him and he expects me to do the same. I don't mind being a housewife, I just hate being compared to his mother and being called names. The other side to this story is that he expects all of this but never buys me gift, takes me on dates, or even use any consideration to help out. Is this normal?

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  • xxDreamWeaverxx
    13 years ago

    His mother set him up for failure by never requiring him to help out. This also has subconsciously told him that males are dominant, which is totally not true. We don't live in the '50's anymore, take a stand and put him in his place!

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  • darren3
    13 years ago

    F*ck his best friend and then ask him, "Does your mother do that!?"

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    • WordWizard
      11 years ago

      Well that is great revenge scheme.

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  • buckman
    13 years ago

    Eh. I'd tell him to call my mommy in the bedroom and stop shaving my legs. If he wants you to be his mom, act like it for a few days and see how much he likes it then. He's a mamas boy, obv. Ew.
    But, I do agree with him in the sense that you should have dinner ready and the clothes put away, ironed. And the floors kept clean. It's not that hard to keep a house clean when you're home all day. Just like he has his job, that's yours. Unless you get a paying job, then housework/cooking should be a shared responsibility.

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  • Allistalla
    11 years ago

    I do not know why women excpect roses? I never got anything near that except once. I never got anything on Christmas from most people other then family scept one year in school. I do not see how these trinkets matters? Maybe im just use to it but I see not whyvits importnant I only give stuff like this to my mom and gramma and family. Most my boyfreinds never took me on dates or got me giftsand my first real date I had a panic attack the while day was horrible.

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  • rayst
    13 years ago

    Arent you a housewife? Shouldnt you be doing the laundry? GO NOW!

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    If he is out working making the money and that you are unemplyed then do you honestly think its fair that he
    Works
    Helps clean up
    Buys you things?

    You cant expect your partner to do the things that ensure your survival (getting money) and then complain when he is asking you to do your part.

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    • DefinitelyNotNormal89
      13 years ago

      He shouldn't have to go to work and then come home to cook and clean, I agree there but why can't he take her out every now and then or just buy her some flowers? I suppose he did whilst they were dating, why should it stop now they're married? WHERE'S YOUR ROMANTIC SIDE ITDUZ?!

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      • wreckd
        13 years ago

        LMAO. I agree. Where are her damn flowers?? Sadly, I really don't think he has a romantic side. He's not into "lovers".

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      • [Old Memory]
        11 years ago

        He should stop because she is expecting him to work and do the house work while she does nearly nothing.

        Why would such a person deserve such gifts and romance? Why would you treat someone that is treating you unfairly with romance?

        Romance is good when deserving, but not in this situation.

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    • Metoyou
      11 years ago

      My husband of 30yrs works but has never cooked for me ever bcuz he was spoilt when he lived at home and I've always done it myself and he even forgets our wedding anniversary so this year I forgot on purpose and he rememberd 1month later so I ignored him so no sex for him.

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      • [Old Memory]
        11 years ago

        He doesn't have to cook if he is working and you aren't. If he is working, then you cook, it is your responsibility to bring something in to the relationship. He is not "spoiled" if he doesn't want to cook while he has been out working while you sit down doing nothing, that makes you look spoiled, not him.

        The anniversary bit is just annoying. What did you expect him to do, buy you things? And if he didn't spend money on you, you didn't give him sex? Sounds to me like you're a prostitute.

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  • --ash--
    13 years ago

    Stop your whingeing, instead of complaining you could have already made desert!

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  • gatekeeper007
    7 years ago

    Unfortunately, It looks like you got an asshole for a husband. I'm sorry for you.

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  • WordWizard
    11 years ago

    Here is a suggestion? Why do you not ask him to go date his mother?

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  • starburst
    13 years ago

    He shouldn't compare you to his mom. You need to tell him to how you feel and if he lives you he will try to make it better for you. If you love and respect him you should also try and have dinner ready on time.

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  • americanhoney
    13 years ago

    Holy fuck. I actually agree with Itduz on this one.

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  • TyLee
    13 years ago

    You are right!!!!! If he wants that from you than he needs to play his part too.

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  • CountryRoads
    13 years ago

    Ew.

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  • aussiewolf
    13 years ago

    regardless of whether you work or not, you should never be compared to his mother. he will do this for the rest of your life together so you need to make a choice.... do you want him to see his mother in you or do you want to be with a guy who see's you in you and doesnt compare you to anyone else? if my husband started comparing me to his mother and ordering me to be her then i would tell him to stick it. i hate "men" who would rather make love to their mothers than their wives.

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    • Allistalla
      11 years ago

      I agree it sounds like he has a mommy complex which means he may be imagining sex in bed with hus mum.

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  • buckman
    13 years ago

    Oh and really, you're married. It's real life now. Don't expect to go on a lot of dates and get a lot of gifts.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

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    Women can be irritating. They think men are here just so they make females lives easier.

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