Is it normal that my husband changes so much?

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My husband and I have been together for over 7 years during this time we have had so much happiness, for me the happiest time in my life is the time I spent with him. But on the other hand we have had some horrible times. He is one year younger than me, I'm 26 he is 25 and I understand some of his instability could be due to his young age. During our time together he has been abusive physically, emotionally etc,etc..He has leave me around 10 or 11 times during this 7 years, claiming it was all my fault and how much he will never come back and some months later he comes back crying and begging and saying he will do about anything to make it work just to do the same exact thing again and again and..........
Everytime we have separated he acts the same strange way, completly not sensible to anything, I could be sick, in a very difficult situation he will act completely heartless like if he never loved me or he just completely does not love me anymore. I think this change will be normal if it was after some days of separating but with him, he could be the sweetest guy ever tonight, tell me he can not live withouth me, tell me he is nothing withouth me, tells me he wants to protect me and love me forever, and the next day he can act completely the opossite. Is this normal? or could this be some a bipolar disorder?
What I do not understand at all is this drastic change, as if he was a different person and then some months later he will come to me crying and begging and acting as the most sensible ,sweet person.
I know most of you will tell me why do I care about this relationship anymore after the abuse. But I love him and even though we could separate I really will like my daughter to have a more stable father, I'm scare he could have a bigger problem that what I could think.

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  • KingTermite
    8 years ago

    Sounds like we have very different definitions of "much happiness".

    He sounds sick and even with help he may not improve. It may be time for you to take a long, hard look at what you want and need and then decide if you believe he's someone that can do that for you.

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  • jasonapple
    13 years ago

    Have you asked him why he is like this?

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  • so_damn_unpretty
    13 years ago

    He definately has some sort of social disorder, maybe bi-polar.. I'm no expert. That being said, it's the way he is and he's never going to change, this routine of his is going to continue happening over and over. If you want to stay in this relationship you'll just have to accept and prepare for that i spose.

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  • mtnw
    14 years ago

    i think you are on to something with the bi-polar, and if not that, it is surely something along those lines.

    though, how's he going to get the help he needs?

    it will play out one way or the other, though. you will continue to tolerate his behavior and learn to live with it, or you will decide action on your part is necessary. good luck

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  • humili
    14 years ago

    U need to check on his family background from the past and understand his current needs. Adult r growing up big kids that will feel threatened by the outside world. His behaviour shows a lack of maturity for married man and as well as lack of preparation into the adult world!

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