Is it normal that my guilt is completely self-destructive?

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Ok, so I'm guilty of something I did when I was a young lad (and it was unjustified, but my hormones were raging and all that) and I won't say what it was. It wasn't too horrible, honestly. It was pretty bad, but it's not like I went around raping babies or anything. But, now I feel a complete and utter guilt that overtakes my life. I absolutely resent myself. I constantly think about how I don't deserve life. The worst part is: no matter how hard I try to justify it, it always comes back and haunts me. I just always think about how I'd be shunned by my entire community if it came out. I think of myself as a monster and I don't know what to do... Is that irrationally toxic guilt normal?

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  • Lillygir1
    7 years ago

    It's normal to mastrubate.

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  • DistanceOnTheLace
    7 years ago

    It depends on what you did. Guilt is something we feel very strongly as a direct response to something we did that had consequences or was morally unacceptable. I think it's clear that you sexually abused a person or an animal based on what you have vaguely said to us here. I highly suggest that you seek therapy for this issue. It seems like something that needs to come out in the light and be dissected. If you do not think you will repeat this behavior, it is time you do the work of forgiving yourself. It is a strong belief in the psychology world that if we live in our guilt we are likely to repeat the same behaviors that brought us to that point. If we accept ourselves, though, we can forgive what is done and accept it as a mistake of the past. It needs to be dealt with. No, your guilt that you are drowning in is not healthy. But it is worth it to do the work of getting over what has been done. You would be surprised how many other people have done similiar things but never talk about it.

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  • Ellenna
    7 years ago

    You're obsessed with something you can't go back and change and that's totally pointless and as you say, self-destructive.

    Presumably you hurt someone in a sexual way: have you apologised and tried to make it up to that person? I suggest you seek professional counselling and unburden yourself and then try and make the world a better place in some way rather than wallowing around in your own guilt.

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