Is it normal that my girlfriends family does everything together?

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The 5 siblings, sister in law, mom and dad do everything together. The kids range in age from 20-28. They hang out with the family over friends. They go out to eat all the time, go on outings, hikes- everything. Whenever I am with her now, we have to go everywhere with at least 5 of them. They are all really "good". They do all the right things, and seem like they never fight.

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Based on 34 votes (21 yes)
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  • squeallikeasacofpigs
    11 years ago

    Introduce some 'bad' into their lives. Fuck you're girlfriends sister. And her mother. Then see if they fight.

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    • regisphilbin
      9 years ago

      hahaha

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  • Anonymous Post Author
    11 years ago

    To Mando: What bothers me is that I think they do it out of fear of the unkown, and they never grow emotionally or socially. This leads to unhealthy perspectives.

    It is also that they always do what their parents want them to do instead of what they want to do.

    In society we are all a part of one another's lives, not just our family.

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    • forever_anon
      11 years ago

      If they're so enmeshed with their parents that they can't make independent decisions, then that is a problem. And I like your closing statement. Good quote.

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  • forever_anon
    11 years ago

    It may be normal for them, but it doesn't sound like a healthy situation. When do they socialize with friends or have romantic evenings with their partners? Do you two ever get time alone?

    That said, the important question is not, "Is this normal?", but "Can I live with this?" Are you comfortable spending that much of your free time with the future in-laws?

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  • plum6
    11 years ago

    I am always weirded out by such situations because it just seems unreal to me. However it doesn't seem like a reason to leave your relationship for..

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  • kit291
    11 years ago

    it all happens behind closed doors... no they seem really nice.

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  • shuggy-chan
    11 years ago

    too perfect!!! run away

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  • individual19
    11 years ago

    it is normal to them, but not normal
    at the same time. people can't live like that in this world it's not realistic

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  • Tarkio
    11 years ago

    This is not healthy.

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  • theytookthisone
    11 years ago

    Sounds like the Brady Bunch

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  • Anonymous Post Author
    11 years ago

    @ Mando
    I think they need to branch out! Otherwise it is like a cult. Like I said before, we are all a part of society, and not just a part of our family.

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  • Mando
    11 years ago

    I'm so sorry for all the mediocre family relationships and unhappy childhoods on IIN (HA -just kidding - mostly) but the fact is this seems like a family that enjoys one another's company, and spending a lot of time together. They do exist. They aren't cults nor are they sick or unhealthy. And they do very well because of the intergenerational and constructive support to one another.

    That said this may not be what the poster wants or is used to or can appreciate or handle - but that is no reason to crap on this family. It works for them. If it doesn't for you, then move on - she's a package deal.

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  • Anonymous Post Author
    11 years ago

    To clarify, the children are not children or teenagers. They are all adults, and 1 of them is married.

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