Is it normal that my girlfriend wants me to punch her?

I’ve been seeing my girlfriend for just over a year now and I’ve fallen madly in love with her. I try my best to please her in bed, but it’s becoming more difficult. She has what one might call an alternative lifestyle, with a strong interest in the occult and the morbid. She’s really rough and wild in bed, which can be (and has been) exciting, but the other day she asked me to hit her. Not like the usual passionate bite or scratch, but a punch in the face. I flat out refused. I said I’d do almost anything she wants, but I could never hit her. Since then she’s been really off towards me and I feel that she may be getting bored because I can’t fulfill her desires. I’m completely in love and don’t know what to do.

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  • mysistersshadow

    As crazy as it probly sounds some ppl men and women get off on this kind of thing. I don't think its healthy and you could be putting your self in a position to be criminally liable if you do it. I would say if this isn't something you want to do or a risk your willing to take you should probly cut this 1 loose. Sorry.

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  • thegypsysailor

    You did the right thing. If she can't handle that, then I guess you are going to lose her. Well actually, it sounds more like HER loss.

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  • Zonfire80

    She sounds like she’s into bdms. If your not well then your going to have to break it off.

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  • Anonymous6996

    I love it rough in bed! Being choked and spanked.. but I don't think a punch in the face would feel to good..

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  • Jujudog

    i had a girlfriend who wanted me to choke her while having sex. I downright refused and she didn't ask again. At the end of the relly I was a bit disappointed I didn't do it. Often. Ha. Anyway no way I was getting into that world, I'm very comfortable with my current living arrangements, no wish to change them for a 3x3 cell.

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  • AB1234

    My girlfriends are always telling me about "r" fantasies. I think a lot more women have them than feel safe admitting it. And I admit to liking to get sorta rough with my boyfriends, but never wanting one of them to flat out punch me.

    If you don't feel comfortable with something sexually, your partner really ought to understand. If she needs it, though, then you guys might just not be very compatible. Sexual urges seem to intensify when they're not satisfied.

    Could you like maybe get one of those punching machines and have her use it on herself? But you should document it and get her to sign something in advance. No haters, please, but I'm a girl and I can tell ya, there's a MASSIVE double standard when it comes to physicality. You don't want her to get angry at you and claim later that you struck her.

    Good luck!

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  • commodoredawe

    If you don't feel OK with this then this is probably the end of the line. You can't do it, you cannot get sexual pleasure from that and it would be impossible to bring you to accept this practice over an extended period, then that's it. You should also be aware that some desires may wear off and even disappear with the passage of time but equally they may get more intense and extreme.

    For some people physical abuse and pain during sex is "must-have" even though (and quite rightly so) would call the police and take you to courte if you resorted to physical violence during e.g. an argument. But in the heat of the sexual excitement my wife has on many occasions asked me to slap her face. Not so hard as to cause any marking or scars but quite substantials slaps and according to her that just makes her feel totally taken and surrendered to my male superiority (which means and does nothing for me) but for her it's the point where her climax goes through the roof.

    Different strokes for different folks. But if it's not up your street and it would be nothing else then mental rape on you to be forced to this against your will, then without finding a different mutual arrangement this could be the end of the line for your relationship.

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  • EchoFlower

    A lot of people like pain with their pleasure. That's not the weirdest i've heard. I've had a guy literally ask to slam my head against blasting speakers while having sex. Some people just have different sexual appetites.
    If you're not comfortable with it, she should accept that.
    But I also think you should consider talking to her about it and asking why. Discussing boundaries and interests will actually help a lot in cases of awkward disagreements in bed...

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    • Jujudog

      did you let him slam your head off the blasting speakers?

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