Is it normal that my girlfriend spends more time with her friend?

Me and my girlfriend are both 22, we have been dating for 7 months aproximately. But lately I'm concerned that she is spending too much time with her friend (another girl). They have been friends for 1 year (they go together to college). They made friends instantly and have been going out for drinks after college more and more often. At first it was ok, I don't have a problem with her going out but lately we don't spend much time together, some days when she leaves her work late she sleeps on her flat since she lives near her workplace and they exchange phone calls mostly everyday. So I thought in two options: the most obvious is that she is cheating on me but in a few ocationts I called her late at night and this girl answered the phone, so at least I know she’s not lying to me. Or maybe she simply just doesn’t want to be with me, but why doesn’t she tell me? Or even if there is another guy I think she should tell me, because recently I can assure that she has spent more time with this girl than with me. But when I confront her she tells me I'm being controlling and makes out like I'm being nosy. I don’t know what to do, I want to get any women’s neutral opinión, so any advice would be really apreciated, thank you so much!

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  • starie

    First thing is first, don't over think things. She could truly just enjoy being with her best friend. That shouldn't be the issue. You should just sit her down and let her know you miss being with her and that you know everyone needs their own personal space but you are in a relationship with each other and that should mean you like to actually be with each other, even if that is only 1min in the day. I would then ask her if there is something wrong?

    Either that or she is having a lesbian fling with her best friend lol (jokes...well, you never know)

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  • dasugaknows

    Obviously i dont know the whole story, but she goes to college and works, that in itself is a lot of time not to mention all the studying. 22 is still young and girls do need to have girl time and fun and all that so you cant really blame her there. However, she still does need to make time for you because you are in a committed relationship together. I would have a talk with her and tell her how you feel.

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  • (s)aint

    Think about the past week, how much time did she spend with you and how much time did she spend with her friend? Why can't you all hang out together sometime as well?

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  • i dont like it, tell her you miss her and see what she says

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  • KeepsakeDoll

    At first her spending time with her friend sounded fine to me since they could just be really great friends.

    The red flag I saw was that when you confronted her about it, she seemed to manipulate the situation by calling you controlling.

    That just makes it seem as if she's avoiding the topic and turning the tables on you.

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  • Dude if she's not interested in putting you first, she's not worth keeping.

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  • Blue_Velvet

    Depends on how much she spends time with them. If she values her friends more than you, then you're in a bad relationship.

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    • Totally agree! So many people these days are like "you shouldn't put you're SO before your friends" and I'm just like, really? My friends are gonna share my bed and have kids with me? Yeah, I didn't think so.

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