Is it normal that my girlfriend sleeps over at other guys dorms?

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Me and my girlfriend are going to different colleges. She is 18 and I'm 19, we have been going out for 3.5 years. She has slept over another guys dorm several times, and he's slept over at her dorm too. She says she's not into him and she already rejected him when he asked her out, but this guy told me flat out that he wants her. Is this normal?

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  • koifish
    13 years ago | pl

    It's not normal that you even have to ask this question.

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  • MochaCriola
    13 years ago | pl

    She is cheating...go to her dorm on a day that he is "sleeping" over without notice n see what happens

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  • korn3654
    13 years ago | pl

    Dude, wake the f#%^ up. You know what's going on! Move on.

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  • Mimi69
    13 years ago

    I'd be pissed if I were you.

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  • alv1592
    13 years ago

    i'd say it's kinda obvious that she's done some things with him. i mean, they are sleeping in the same room, so there's a good chance it'll turn sexual.

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  • domebro
    13 years ago

    No, it's not normal.
    Tell her to stop or else you'll break up with her.

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  • warm-ape-shit
    13 years ago

    Break up man. Your asking for a heartbreak staying in this.

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  • _justwondering_
    13 years ago

    She's moving on... You should too. Even if nothing is happening, it's not a healthy situation for a relationship. Don't be the blind little puppy. Have some self respect and let go. It won't be easy after dating for so long, but it's what you need to do.

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  • BoredGuy
    13 years ago

    get a new gf and break up with the old one.

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  • TT22
    11 years ago

    Seriously? Why did you even post this in the first place? No it's not normal and yes he is banging her! C'mon guy she is not even 20 and she still has a lot of different dicks to be riding on.

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  • joelsmo
    13 years ago

    Is there a reason that you believe she is lying to you? Before you dump her I would actually talk to her and tell her it bothers you. If you don't trust her you shouldn't be with her anyway.

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  • lovesexandturtles
    13 years ago

    I would be so beyond pissed if my boyfriend was sleeping at other girls houses. That's just crossing a line that shouldn't be crossed. Not in an exclusive relationship of three and a half years. I don't think it's normal at all and she honestly isn't taking the relationship seriously if she thinks it's okay to sleep with another guy who is supposedly in to her. I'm sure she would not be happy if you were sleeping at other girls dorms. My boyfriends brother moved to Ohio from North Carolina to go to college and his girlfriend is still a senior in high school in NC. He is not only sleeping at another girls apartment, but he sleeps IN the bed with them. He said he needs someone to cuddle with and it's not sexual at all. Personally, I don't buy it and I think it's a piece of shit (especially because his girlfriend doesn't know) but hey it's not my business. Just be careful, this girl seems like she's nothing but trouble.

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  • MusiCman
    13 years ago

    Are you serious. If i sleep over a girls dorm is cause piping is on the menu. An you go to college to so dont be a moron. Take off the rose glasses before you hit a wall bro.

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  • littlebeebop
    13 years ago

    What the hell? Why are you still even with her if she's doing that? It's obvious she's cheating.

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  • la_uva_mojada
    13 years ago

    Well, you said that he confessed that he's into her, and that she's not into him.. well, ok.. But if you know this, how much don't you know? I just don't understand how this guy would tell you he's into her. Is he some kind of arrogant bastard telling you this just to f*** with you? I wouldn't give her any ultimatums or you'll break up because more than likely then she'll instantly have some girl that she's hanging out with if she really still wants to hang out there.
    I'd say especially if alcohol is involved, he's already done more with her than you'd be comfortable with.. This is the recipe for disaster, so I'd say try to stop thinking in terms of her being 'the one', because I'd say she doesn't feel that way about her. My guess is that she's attractive and is into having fun and dating, not about having a long distance relationship.

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  • bleach_baby
    13 years ago

    unless he is freakishly ugly this isnt normal

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  • argo
    13 years ago

    Let me add some more back-story. She insists she is not into him at all and that a girl sleeping over a guy friends room is normal in college. She says she sleeps on the floor or he does. Also she said his roommate is usually around when it happens.

    I personally, don't believe shes cheating. I do, however, feel very uncomfortable that other guys are sleeping in the same room as her

    I needed some clarity that this act is not "normal" like she thinks it is.

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    • UnrecognizableMan
      12 years ago

      My girlfriend often shared her bed with her male friends. Definitely nothing happened (half of them are gay anyway) but it did make me feel uncomfortable. I told her how I felt, so she stopped.

      Theres nothing wrong with her sharing the bed with other guys and people would probably think I was being unreasonable. But it takes 2 mins on my girlfriends behalf to pull out the sofa bed, vs me feeling uncomfortable about the whole thing for days.

      So ask her to stop. It's a small request and it obviously bothers you a lot. If she cares about your feelings then its shouldn't be a problem.

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  • SMILEYxD
    13 years ago

    i would kill that man

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    • BoredGuy
      13 years ago

      Not really his fault, pretty sure a girl can turn you down so fast that you wouldn't know what hit you, if she wants.

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  • one_guy
    13 years ago

    1st of all you shouldn't even be in this situation. You gotta be pretty naive to not know what's going on. And if you want drama go and see what's going on when he's there you show up surprisingly. And you don't need this man.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    Mocha criola is right! Go over "unexpectedly" and see wats up!!!!!!

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  • aussiewolf
    13 years ago

    i dont think she is cheating on you because she wouldnt have told you that she was sleeping in his dorm but i would be a little on edge because he told you that he is into her so he might be waiting for you to get so jealous that you break up with her so he can be the shoulder she cries on and take advantage of her. but when i was at school and my friends and i had parties, we all slept in the one room right next to each other and nothing weird happened. we were all just really close friends. so i guess you need to trust her that nothing is going on. if she changes though, starts to act weird around you then you probably should be suspicious that something happened between them.

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