Is it normal that my girlfriend lays into me all the time?

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Hi.

I come from a background of abusive family, abusive girlfriends and unsupportive friends. I hope that emphasises what a big deal it is that my current girlfriend has been so good to me that I trust her implicitly. The only problem is that whenever she's down, or tired or busy she makes me feel like the biggest piece of shit in the world. For example, she's working away in another country at the moment. She works 16 hour days. I know, and have it made known to her that I know, that she can't call me very often and that she's very busy etc. She still calls, but then gets arsy because its something she feels like she "has to do". Then, when I say that I don't like that she's throwing it in my face, she starts ranting about not wanting to "waste her time on this conversation". I can't stand it. Its driving me crazy that she creates all of these problems and no matter what I do its not good enough. Its gotten to the point where I just don't want to talk to her anymore because of how damn nasty she is. I don't see the benefit in chatting to her if she's gonna turn on me every single time. Please, if this is normal, tell me. If this is the sign of something that I should seriously just walk away from then tell me that. I just can't tell. I feel like I should just give up as she's never going to change but on the other hand I do love her so much. She is unique and wonderful apart from this one thing.

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  • aussiewolf
    13 years ago

    sounds like you need to back away and let her miss you. maybe she is trying to make it hard on your relationship so you break up with her. either way it sounds like mind games and i hate game in relationships, they really are a waste of time. how long have you been together for?

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  • jessica1617
    13 years ago

    Coming from a girls point of view if you feel she is treating you good then shes a keeper. Little things can get worked out if she says something you dont like..such as a minor thing like she feels she always has to answer to you...maybe because of your past u feel like u need to hold onto a good thing so u wont get rejected like u once did when really your pushing her away..talk one on one with a counselor everyone should dont think its for weak ppl. And most importantly tell her why u feel like she should be around u all the time.

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  • Potassium
    13 years ago

    Hmm... Sounds like stress is getting to her, but that's not an excuse for her to take it out on you.

    Don't call her for a while... Give her the gift of missing you. Maybe that will make her more interested and feel better about talking to you. [:

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  • RazzberriiRed
    13 years ago

    Sounds like another candidate in your pattern of abusive relationships. People go back to what they're familiar with, with what they know. Trust me, I come from an abusive family and boyfriends too.

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  • theohman
    13 years ago

    You might love her, but does she love you back? The feeling has to be mutual.

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  • ohhpleasee
    13 years ago

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