Is it normal that my girlfriend is 18 and we can't see each other?

My girlfriend turned 18 two months ago. Her parents are trying to make her hate me with no apparent reason. They just want her to marry someone else from their friend circle. But she doesn't want to. Now she is punished, no cellphone, no computer, they got her clothes, they took her parfumes, she can't go out, she stays locked, they beat her, let's just say she is in total isolation and misery like in nazi germany or soviet russia. They are always insulting her, even in front of me, say she is fat, ugly, stupid, coward etc. She can only call me from school from a payphone, we speak for a limited time, and she cries but does nothing about her situation.

I told her I will get her to live with me, I have pretty decent home, a car, a job, I live alone, we understand each other great, I said I will provide her with everything, even education. After all that, she won't come with me. But she is always crying and saying she hate them, but she doesn't do anything to change that. I told her I could call the police and get her out from that place. They hold her as a hostage. But she just won't. She promises that she will overcome her fear to confront them. But she doesn't keep her promises, like ever.

For me it's time to move on, I told her that, I wan't to live free, I wan't to see my girlfriend and speak with her, I have no communication after all with her. I just want to move on and find a brave independent girl. She even threatened me that she will suicide herself in her home and she can't take it anymore. But she have a choice, she is after all an adult, 18 years old. She can't see me because she is afraid and won't even call the cops, but she doesn't want me to see other girls either. It's been 1 month this way and things haven't changed.

Is that normal and is it normal for me to still be with her?

Can't see her, but can't see other girls either.

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33% Normal
Based on 15 votes (5 yes)
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Comments ( 8 )
  • Bavaria

    We split yesterday. She was high on drugs. I'm putting an end to this comedy show.

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    • (s)aint

      Understandable, even though you love her you can't be her saviour. As a last sign of good will I´d report it to the police if I were you but sometimes we can´t save people.

      You must remember that she has probably lived with abusive parents her whole life and it's HARD to break free.

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  • HiAGAIN10

    Respect her parents wishes, and let her solve this. Nothing you can do. If you had your own home, she could crash there. Unless they're REALLY abusive and not just being parents, don't intervene. Get some new 18 year old booty if this goes on for too long.

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  • kayleeberry101

    How old are you? If you're 45, this is probably why. You say your life is in order..this girl is only 18, you're obviously a lot older so the parents probably want someone who is not a pervert.

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  • Darkoil

    Which country are you in?

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    • Bavaria

      Germany.

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  • KeepsakeDoll

    It's normal for you to still be with her if you love her.

    However, the relationship won't go anywhere if she doesn't do something about her problems. The reason why is probably because of her learned helplessness.

    Either help her solve this or leave her.

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  • deadtea

    Of course it's not normal... Maybe don't call the cops, maybe try some community service? You can also say that she thretened to commit suicide - if that won't be enough for a proper service to arrive and take action then I don't know what will.

    I also understand you and I think you're not obligated to stay with her if she refuses to change what is wrong but maybe it's not too late to help her fix her problems? And even if you decide to leave... I'd stil suggest calling someone to come to her house and investigate what's wrong. She may be in need... even if she doesn't want the help

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