Is it normal that my girlfriend does this now?

My girlfriend is awesome. I love her to death. But lately, it seems as though she doesn't enjoy dressing up, or putting makeup on. Which is fine, just I feel that sometimes when we go out, it would be nice if she cleaned up abit. She is beautiful, don't get me wrong. But why doesn't she feel the need to impress me anymore, or look good for me anymore..

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  • bleach_baby

    Ok, i got to say that Echoes advice is terrible, your girlfriend will just think you're eyeing up other women. Just say things to your girlfriend like "remember that dress you wore when we first went on a date? you looked sooo beautiful" or when she is wearing makeup, say "I love it when you do your eyes like that" etc. When she makes an effort, give her lots of physical attention and compliment her loads (not that you should stop complimenting her generally of course). The key to getting her to change is to reward her when she does make an effort, so she wants to do it all the time. Having said that, this is a sign of your girlfriend being comfortable with you, so dont expect her to glam herself up all the time, its not sustainable. Hope that helps.

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  • overdoser

    She's comfortable bro. My girl went from being all dolled up in furry hollister hoodies & raccoon make-up to wearing sweat pants & one of my concert t shirts with absolutely NO make up ever. I personally loved it. It showed me that she was absolutely comfortable being her natural self around me.

    Just let her know that you like how she looks, but you feel like if you're taking her to do something special that she should dress special. If you just want her dolled up all the time then I think you're S.O.L.

    It's sort of a double standard for guys. I couldn't imagine my girl saying "you know, you never wear your slacks & your button up shirt with your hair pulled back anymore." :P

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    • robbieforgotpw

      What guy pulls his hair back?

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  • Echoes

    Find out what changed her, is she going through a bad time, could she be depressed or something?? If not, then make her jealous, give her a reason to have to impress you and hold on to you but don't go out cheating on her :).Pass nice comments on women dressed up well or looking sexy.

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  • Proudfear

    because she doesn't have to

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  • regane

    Another Douche bag comment Echoes, you are quickly becoming probably the stupidest person on here...good going

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    • Echoes

      Thank you, Your Highness.

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  • BRENDANMASONLUBARSKY

    everyone stop with her being lazy or her not feeling she needs to impress him anymore. Trust me appearance is extremely important to girls. We don't just do it to impress guys! We do it because we like to look and feel beautiful. Maybe something else is going on in her life that's got her down. I know when I'm feeling depressed or upset about something I withdraw to myself, and i feel sluggish and i don't really care about make up or my appearance. Ask her how she's been and how everything is going and if she seems a bit hesitant to answer hug her:)
    tell her she can tell you anything and you'll help her through it.
    I'm speaking from personal experience this is what my bf said to me. I thought it was the sweetest thing in the world.

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  • Ya be complimented by it... like she would be if you started farting and eating with your hands more in front of her. Write her a letter explaining exactly how you feel and if she doesn't change then give it a break for a couple weeks-she'll come around...

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  • kiddoc88

    all else aside, I;d take this as a complement; that she feels comfortable around you and is willing to let down her guard. Now, if she stops putting in effort in other areas that matter, that's another story.
    Try sparking up the creativity by doing what you'd like her to do, simple golden rule : )
    If that doesn't do it, there might be an underlying reason that needs to be discussed.)e.g depression. In that case just make sure to be tactful about it

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  • lumanite

    This is hilarious - oh yeah, chicks respond well to being called a slut, especially if it's an ownership "but ur my slut" real smooth lmao... Just bloody be honest with her and say, "going into the city tonight, let's get a dressed up and made up" "I haven't seen you all dressed up in a while, and you look stunning when you wear..." I mean put some imagination into it boys! Bu I think the best bit is that it is a show to you that she totally trusts you and appreciates that you appreciate her entirety... It's darn hard and expensive to say the least to get all made up all of the time, that's something I do know - good on you for allowing her to feel okay to be herself around you, it's a big effort x

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  • Racoon

    She probably feel safe with you and she got in that nice but quite dangerous ''comfort'' zone , that means that she is not afraid of losing you to another ''prettier'' girl anymore..

    You could try to make some romantic stuff and she might want to give you back that attention by dressing up all sexy again and planning some nice ''sexy'' nights ...

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  • CasualGamer

    dude, i'm so in a similar situation as you are right now and it sucks.. she use to look all gorgeous and sexy for me, wearing nice underwear even, and doing nice things... when that all stopped.. and i thought she didnt love me anymore, or wasnt attracted to me anymore..

    turned out it was 2 things..
    1) she got lazy
    2) she forgot about this stuff - i guess this is the comfort stuff..

    I dont have advises, but i think it is still normal as long as she still makes you feel loved.. but if she seems cold also, then you may be in for something really hurtfull. prepare urself..

    as for me, i communicated to my GF for months that i missed her sexyness and all ... after that she'd tell me sorry, and she would try again.. for a few times then totally go back to a "less hotter" her.. then i'd tell her again, she would sometimes say she'd buy sexy lingerie for me but never seem to do it or find time to do so. right now im feeling she's not into that anymore, and that I'm kinda just forcing her to be that again by telling her i miss her and all .. and it's not doing any good so far.. she's not rejecting it, but her interest in that just doesnt seem to be there anymore.. Im hoping this is just a phase..

    So yeah perhaps just try telling her you missed her being like that and perhaps she'll come around.. good luck my friend.

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  • Mel

    ^^^ agree! Great advice.

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  • i think its because she is not "hunting" anymore or thinks she has to impress anyone. a lot of people get a bit lame when they are in a relationship.
    if you tell her you would like to see her with makeup sometimes, she could ask you if you think she's ugly^^.
    so...well...maybe just invite her on a nice dinner to an expensive restaurant where she "must" dress up to fit in. just like you should do when you're there

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  • amxmachine

    lets say u get her to put on eyeliner and shadow etc.. when u compliment her makeup tell her with a smile and a wink very shortly after "your eyes are looking very sluty tonight" it works wonders cause they either slap you on the arm or say does it really? and if they ask the question kiss them and say "yes but ur my slut" its a one use line btw unless its like a year or so later for laughs. just take the next week to think through shit like that and shell be doin whatever u want

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    • nice advice im assuming you've never touched a woman before?

      lol when the chick doesnt feel she needs to impress you it either means shes gotten comfy with you or she doesnt like you anymore either way its bad when your woman isnt looking her best make her feel as if she still has to impress you even now

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    • hotmama50

      my husband uses that line on me everytime i put on makeup but i rarely get to trade the "mom clothes" for nice ones.

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