Is it normal that my girlfriend creeps her ex on facebook?

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My girlfriend and I have been going out for almost 2 years. Her and I are VERY committed to each other. We gave each other promise rings, and are getting engaged in the coming summer. She had a boyfriend in high school for 2 years, he broke up with her because he was using her to hide the fact that he was gay. He came out of the closet, and broke up with her. She was devastated. Her Ex has since broken all contact and never talked to her again. But later found out through her creeping he was speaking ill of her.

She told me when i saw her creeping her boyfriend once that they were good friends too, not just Girlfriend and boyfriend, So the reason that she creeps him is because she wants to know if he followed his dreams and is doing alright. She also told me that she is not the same person that she was when she was seeing him, and doesn't have any affections left for him. Even to this day she creeps her ex at least once a week. They are not friends on facebook she just checks up on her ex, by creeping him. Which i for one don't understand because you can only see some wall posts and pictures. How is that checking to see if he is following his dreams or how he is doing?

So my question is: Is it normal that my girlfriend creeps/checks up on her Ex on facebook while she is in a committed relationship with someone she intends to marry?

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  • pappusharma
    11 years ago

    i would rather not doubt her emotions, she is committed to you, but my dear friend, women have a very bad habit, no matter how bad anyone behaves with them they will always want good for that person.
    She is telling you the truth, she had no emotions for her ex. she only wants him to be successful in life...

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    • relationships_for_the_birds
      11 years ago

      This comment strikes me as true. I am a woman who does this same thing.

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    • markus01
      11 years ago

      Okay i can understand that, but why check like once every week or two? Its not just her ex, anyone who hurt her before or pissed her off she creeps them as well.

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      • pappusharma
        11 years ago

        We really can't do much about that, how can you change nature of a girl.. it is like trying to reach the core of earth, totally impossible... Just don't mind about all those activities, she is a women. the most complex thing to understand..
        My ex also used to do the same stuff, just get along with it for few instances, sometimes i used to sit along with her and check out all that, she felt good, was completely harmless to me, so i never cared about this..

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        • relationships_for_the_birds
          11 years ago

          Yes! Sometimes, we don't understand another's behavior, but if we can learn to be OK with not understanding, it won't bother us as much. My boyfriend does thing that I do not understand, like tell his exes that their pictures on facebook are cute. But he doesn't try to see them or contact them outside of facebook, and while his behavior used to really bother me, as I've gotten more familiar with it (through asking him about it and telling him honestly that it bothered me), it has stopped bothering me. The important thing is,though: I STILL don't understand why he does it, if he's not looking to hook up with them. But the fact is, he does do it. And he doesn't hook up with them. So, really, that's all I need to know. I will probably never understand. I've learned to be ok with that so that I can feel less stressed and enjoy life.

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          • pappusharma
            11 years ago

            A basic stuff guys want is to make their EX feel jealous of their current GF. They don't want them back but just wanna make them realize what a huge mistake they did by leaving/ditching them...
            When EX BF likes or comments on the pics of that girl, she gets curious about knowing what is happening in the guy's life. When she will come to know about the present scenario and about his GF, she will get a lil bit jealous and feel bad about losing him..
            Just a simple thing, most of the guys use this methodology/technique to work this plan out...
            Most of the times it fails... :( but still guys use it, no invention/changes in that field since long time.. :D
            Don't worry, he is loyal to you as long as he is honest and speaks truth...
            Now don't ask me how to find that out??? Read it in his eyes...

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  • TheBunnie
    11 years ago

    She clearly feels unsettled about this ex as she seems to have had no real resolution to the breakup.

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  • Mando
    11 years ago

    Well - at least you don't have to worry about him - (he's gay). But FB isn't the issue - she needs to let this thing go - it has been 2 years at least. Urge her to move on and not waste any more time bumming herself out on it.

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    • markus01
      11 years ago

      I will try and its been over 3 years, she was broken up with him for a year before we started going out. Thanks :)

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    If you are on facebook, you deserve it. It's for keeping track of everyone, the government uses it all the time. All your information, who you know, what you do, all visible.

    You're on facebook, you're a sheep tied to a post.

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    • PapzBSlim
      11 years ago

      What is Facebook? JK I am against that website and any social website of that manner. They are exactly what you said they are. My real friends and family are the ones who have my number and can contact me whenever they feel.

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      • VioletTrees
        11 years ago

        This is a social website, though.

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        • PapzBSlim
          11 years ago

          The social websites of that manner. This one, I presume is difficult to creep users. This is not a website where I post my status updates.

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      • [Old Memory]
        11 years ago

        Spot on!

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  • Energy
    11 years ago

    I'm the same way. I'm with my girlfriend. But we barely see each other. She lives 2 hours away. I use to creep on my ex's Facebook profile and she wasn't added and didn't even know I was creeping. Then she closed her Facebook and now I just basically creep on her ex for some reason. Probably because I'm curious to see if they got back together or not. Nonetheless, I do it because I'm not over my ex...and constantly hope they come back.

    However, your girlfriend's case MAY be different. You never know. Either way not much you can do about it. It's really hard to get over someone. Just have patience I guess.

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