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We have been together about 9 months and we have sex regularly, but she never starts the process it always has to be me and its starting to get old
Maybe she's a little shy about initiating? Or maybe she likes you to be the man and take the lead?
I mean as much I know my own mind, I still don't mind (read as like a lot) when guys take the lead in most things.
its normal for her to feel that way, lots of girls feel shy about it like missorel said or maybe shes not confident enought to make a move. Give her time its only been 9 months... thats not a lot.
She's probably just not comfortable enough in the relationship to initiate sex. I was the same way at the beginning of my relationship with my boyfriend. It probably wasn't until we had been together about 2 years that I started initiating sex. Granted, I had limited sexual experience before we got together (I was a virgin and had basically only made out with boys/gotten fingered).
As time goes on and she trusts you more, she may start initiating. That said, you may want to let her know what a turn-on it would be for her to initiate sex with you and just build up her confidence overall (tell her she looks pretty on a daily basis, if you have sex and she is on top try to show her that it is a huge turn-on).
It will probably be a gradual process, but if you can be patient with her it will likely pay-off.
she probably is just so used to you initiating it that she expects it to happen and doesnt realize that you would like her to do it first (cause you keep doing it anyway).
girls usually wait for different times to initiate sex then guys so before she gets the chance to try, if she planned on it you probably have already made the first move. next time she kisses you unexpectedly just say something like "baby i love it when you surprise me" or "it turns me on when you come on to me" ORRRRR you know you could always just be honest and just tell her straight up?
Dude just tell her you want her to grab you by the neck, throw you down on the bed and jump on you, she will do it.
How about you grow some balls? Your role as a man is to initiate everything. Your problem is that the female empowerment revolution has made you believe the rules have changed. They havnt. We're still wired the same way. The men initiate, lead, and romance. Get used to it if you'd like a great relationship.
That's not true I love initiating I reckon if you want to do something go for it.But yeah it can be tiring ALWAYS initiating the sex in a relationship and it's nice to know that the person you're with is interested in you sexually. If she's doing it she probably wants to, she's probably just nervous and doesn't know how to go about it, it does take confidence to initiate
Im the same way with my bf, its not that im just doing it for him, its that im just not confident in the idea of starting it. Im unsure how to and im afraid of what he may think of me if i do, even though we've been dating for 8 months.
You may not like to hear the truth. She is probably only having it to please you. She doesn't initiate something she really doesn't want. I would first ask her why in a non confronting manner. Does she seem to enjoy it or is she just there?
shes probably shy to initiate it. she also probably likes the fact that you initiate/take control. she probably likes u to start/the foreplay. but u may want to talk about this with her.
Listen, coming from a girl, girls WILL initiate sex. It happens believe me. Anyone telling you to get used to girls not initiating, or that "that's just how it is", needs to check themselves, cause we do. I initiate just about as much as my man does.
Your girl just might not be into it. Or maybe she's still shy with you in bed. Be honest with yourself and evaluate the situation. Perhaps you can bring out the freak in her ;) it takes some talking with some girls.
It's true, a lot of women are like that and I think mainly you can thank society for that, women are supposed to be sexual creatures and make men want them... but at the same time they can't initiate things without being called a 'slut' or feeling too assertive. Not all women feel this way, but I could see this being the problem for your girl. She also could just be unexperienced...
No it is a little bit weird. Yes, the person above me has a point that men usually initiate most things but girls have sex drives, too! We're wired for that as well! Just ask her about it.
It means shes a prissy bitch tell her to do it or you`ll find someone who will