Is it normal that my girl still thinks about him?

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k so my girl was with this guy before i came along. she dated him for 7 months and then started dating me a few months after that. we have been dating for 5 months now.

k the guy before me called her a bitch and a whore and a mistake. she still thinks bout all of that...a lot. she told me she's over him but she cant stop thinking bout all of that. i know it sounds stupid but is it normal that i feel like deep down she still loves him?

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  • graphic_nature
    12 years ago

    Its normal for you to feel that way but not okay for him to consume so much of her mind. It could be possible she's not actually over him and could also be possible that she is but didn't have proper closure with him and it's bugging her. I really don't think that ex's should be mentioned often or compared in current relationships. You should talk to her and see how to remedy this or let her know that you'd feel better for his name to come up less (never) in conversation.

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  • LaughinSkull
    12 years ago

    It is normal, but BY GOD I hate when crap like this happens.

    I mean its human nature and it happens to all of us whether we like it or not--just the way it is. Feelings psh!

    As for your relationship I don't think telling her that if his name came up less or never in conversation it would make things better like "graphic_nature" suggested--she will just bottle it up. You should have a serious talk with her, and maybe she needs time to mature a little and move on from her ex before she should start up another relationship (or continue yours).

    I know its not what anyone wants to hear, but I've been down that road before and you REALLY don't want to go there. If she can't let it go, then I think she needs some space before she can date.

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