Is it normal that my gf's attention fluctuates randomly?

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me and my girlfriend are in a long distance relationship, i know you are probably sighing and face palming right now, but bare with me.
is it normal that when she is out of her house, even if she is doing nothing, like just standing in her back yard for instance,she seems not at all attentive, barley shows interest, her texts and other communication becomes random. fluctuating between a "i love you so much-- *insert 3 texts about lovey dovey things*" to just a "!" reply.
yet when she is the house she is very stable giving affection. she has a constant level of affection and attention, not to over the top but not at all neglectful.
i was on skype with her when i notice this,she stepped outside for fresh air, the way she treated me change so suddenly, and now i am starting to notice it in texts to phone calls.
is that normal?

(also advice and speculations in the comment section are acceptable because,frankly, i am confused as all hell by this behavior. i really don't know how to handle it)

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  • (.)(.)boobies
    9 years ago

    The outside world is a distracting place!

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  • Fall_leaves
    9 years ago

    So you're completely attentive to everyone you text and talk to, when you're out doing things? You don't ignore others messages?

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    • thecatnotwearingahat
      9 years ago

      actually yes, i message back as soon as possible, if i am busy i tell them that i am and i will talk to them later. it's rude to initiate contact with someone only to sit there and take my time with them. i find that disrespectful.

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      • thecatnotwearingahat
        9 years ago

        also not to mention if you ignore someone you have a closer connection with (I.E. friends,family,SO)you really don't deserve their contact,you don't fully appreciate them, IMO.

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  • GinaHead
    9 years ago

    Then say something to her about it or don't text while she's preoccupied.

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    • thecatnotwearingahat
      9 years ago

      i tried those, she just tells me she is easily distracted.
      thats all fine and good, so i asked her to only contact me when she has time to put in full attention towards me, that it will make the messages,calls,ect. more meaningful.
      yet she still persist in texting me when she is in a position where she can barley even pay attention to herself.

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  • ThisIsImpossible
    9 years ago

    Dude, I bet she's like interacting with the outside world or something man.

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    • thecatnotwearingahat
      9 years ago

      yeah it could be that she just likes nature, but i'm talking about when she is physically outside in anyway, it's like her whole personality almost changes.

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      • ThisIsImpossible
        9 years ago

        I said the outside world not nature maybe she doesn't like talking to you cus of your lack of comprehension hahaha

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  • imadragon
    9 years ago

    I don't really know what to say, yes that is normal. How long have you been together?

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    • thecatnotwearingahat
      9 years ago

      we been together a year.

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      • imadragon
        9 years ago

        I see, maybe you are just developing your relationship, leaving the "honeymoon stage", if you know what I mean? It doesn't really mean anything, it's normal.

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