Is it normal that my gf made out with her?

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I've been with my girlfriend for almost a year but she's spending the year abroad so I haven't seen her in about 3 months.

When we were last together we were talking about our sexual fantasies and stuff and I mentioned that I liked the thought of her being with another girl and also that I like the idea of being in public.

Then a couple of days ago she texted me to say that her and a female friend had just made out in front of a group of their friends. She asked if I found it sexy and all that stuff but to be honest I dont like the fact that she did it.

I know that it pretty much hits the whole description of things I like, but I don't like that she did it when I wasn't there and that she did it in front of a load of guys who I'd already told her I didn't like her spending so much time with (since they all get drunk and come onto her - which she agrees with).

I don't know what to do. I want to think that the reason she did it was because she wanted to tell me and I'd enjoy it but I don't actually think she was thinking of me at all until afterwards and she's not telling me the details because the other girl will be embarrassed.

I don't know if i should feel like she's cheated on me? Or should I just say that they were drunk and that sort of stuff happens? I know she'd never cheat on me with a guy, but i still feel hurt by what she did.

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  • 8Serene8
    13 years ago | pl

    It's still cheating even if it's with the same sex. Don't let her get away with that. The fact she did it in front of a bunch of other men she knew fully well that it was to turn those guys on. Doesn't matter if you told her it was a fantasy of yours. She took that as an excuse to do what she did. I think you need to talk to her and set some bounderies

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  • bleach_baby
    13 years ago | pl

    she did it to turn the guys on, she didnt do it because its your fantasy, she didnt do it because its her fantasy. she 100 percent did it to turn on that group of guys.

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  • Heh?
    13 years ago | pl

    You should tell her she has been a bad, bad girl and must be disciplined.

    Proceed by bending her over your lap and spanking her until she shares the details. Admit you cannot fully enjoy her story if she leaves out all the sordid details.

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  • -Smallz-
    13 years ago

    i think you need to think about this. you have a gf that you realy like. shes gone for a hole year without you abroad. and shes with a group of guys that hit on her. mate, you would be lucky to even see her again never mind talk to her about the hole snogging thing. I don't mean to be a dick but this hole story dont sound to good for you!

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  • Gardenia
    13 years ago | pl

    She doesn't care about you.
    She's a slut, to hell with her>.<

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  • HurrrDurrr
    13 years ago

    She has emotional/validation problems. That behavior is common among 16 year old girls who don't have a strong sense of self. If she's not 16 or younger then we have a problem

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  • holy_intruder
    13 years ago

    I hate saying this. She's a cheating whore. It makes me fucking sick. You have my sincerest sympathy.

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  • normalasyou
    13 years ago

    come on get a life, its over, get on with your life, thats after 3 months! Only another 9 months to go. Go get another g/f and get on with your life.

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  • davegrohl
    13 years ago

    she's a slut...but take advantage
    now you can probably have a threesome

    dangerous, cause you might be hurt, but awesome

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  • Mikael
    13 years ago

    no borther basically shes cheating on u no lies becuz like ive beenn haning out drinking so much i kno like girls if they ve been kissing arounf at parties wit beer omg she like slepted wit almost every sngle guys there why i kno becuz iv been to parties myself honestly i fucked some girls either buzzed drunk and they still kno me and they dont mind having sex jux for a night but guess eat the next day when she is sober n not buzzed animore i asked her agin lets have sex and she fine with it and we have sex agin OMG trut me dude

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  • lvcumluver
    13 years ago

    its fucked up she did that in front of other guys. It's cheating. My wife brought me into that world of sleeping with the same sex and I have on occasion been with other guys when she isn't around, but she knows about it and encourages it, but that is our relationship not yours, you must set the ground rules or it can get out of hand real quick.

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  • raining_skyttlez
    13 years ago

    Harsh..honestly, I don't like discussing fantasies w/ my man, because I obsses about them and they become my fantasies too, but I am more outgoing and more likely to try them, which is likely what happened...she probably just saw the opportunity and took it, but probably turned her on knowing it would turn on all those guys too. Future reference...if you're going to talk to a girl about fantasies (yours, hers, or both) make sure to mention that you are perfectly happy w/ them STAYING fantasies, because girls will go out and try them, we're just more adventurous like that!

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  • Mitsyrules
    13 years ago

    You weren't there when she did it, so it is cheating. You weren't involved with it at all. She is a slut.

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  • knoshann
    13 years ago

    Tell her that you will need pictures, or even better a movie, to fully appreciate what happened. Then post them here so we can help you with your question.

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  • BoredGuy
    13 years ago

    tell the idea was, that you would watching ffs!!!

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  • ihaventaclue
    13 years ago

    Some things r better left as fantasies. Besides the fact that while the cats away the mice will play.... I'm travel the world often so been there done that.

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  • ctbiguy
    12 years ago

    Maybe she did it and told you to turn you on. If you wanted to be there when she did it, you should tell her you wanted to be there to watch. Could be miscommunication. No biggie...

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  • normalboy18
    12 years ago

    dude she is a slutt and she might be cheating too so just dumpher and get a new girl that deserves respect

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  • increased
    13 years ago

    :o

    What she did was wrong.

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  • 1942
    13 years ago

    i'm not sure because. why would anyone send a text to you saying hey i'm a slut i just made out with a girl in front of lots of guys. did you like what i did?

    and i also think that's cheating on you.

    i mean i do similar things like let some guys into me and my bf's apartment so that they can learn how to give orgasms. (they really need advice) all with my bf's permission. plus we bring let in girls with whom we have treesomes with. i make out with THEM. we also bring in other guys to gang bang me while my bf tapes it.

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  • Whitneyhouston
    13 years ago

    Her with another girl is hot, I honestly think she was trying to please you. Why would she tell you "oh hey, I just cheated on you."?? Try not to get too upset with her, sure maybe she did make out with a girl in undesired circumstances. I know in the fantasy you were prob there buut, I think she had good intentions.

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  • BoredGuy
    13 years ago

    @LivingTogether: talk for yourself you stupid tard. I'm completely atheist and I don't really have any sexual taboos, and even less morals. Still I don't wanna blow dicks. But you can believe w/e shit you want if that keeps you out of the asylum.

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  • Complex4
    13 years ago

    She cheated on you....

    Being drunk, isnt an excuse for cheating....

    Irrespective of whether she did it with a guy or girl, she DID CHEAT on you....

    If she really cared for you, she would have taken your consent (if its really ok with u, whether it will hurt u if she did it in real ) before acting on that fantasy.......

    She probably got horny discussing fantasies with you, she CHEATED on you and now she found an excuse for doing it...

    Leave her...Its been 3 months not mentioning she even cheated...find somebody who will respect your love and will be faithful...

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    Tell her how u feel. Shell understand.

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  • Proudfear
    13 years ago

    i dont think she meant to cheat,she should have asked you first. ask her to do it again but with u there

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  • LovingTogether
    13 years ago

    Boy, are you lucky. She's bisexual, now all you have to do is suck a cock in front of her. The first time I did that, my wife watched and had an orgasm without touching herself. We're all bisexual. It releigion and social mores that teach us not to be free and open.

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    • ctbiguy
      12 years ago

      Dude...same thing happened with my wife and I. She LOVES watching me give head

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  • Elegy
    13 years ago

    Tell her you dont like it and ask her not to do it again

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