Is it normal that my gf gets mad that i work alot?

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I'm in university and I work a part time job when I'm back home. My gf doesn't work as much as I do. However, when I say I am at work she responds with "You love work more than you like spending time with me" or with "work makes you happy".

I've explained I need to work because I have no money- I need to save up for university. She has recently said that I pick and choose when I see her and that she waits around for me- when it's suitable for me. I would love to spend time with her but I need the money to do so:( I am always sad these days and I do not like it.

Am I wrong?

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  • Zorak
    6 years ago | pl

    A man has to work...would she rather you were jobless and completely broke with no prospects? She seems kind of selfish.

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    • RoseIsabella
      6 years ago

      She seems ignorant and uninformed.

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      • Zorak
        6 years ago

        Yes. These are the types of things in life that make it harder for me to take a decent el dumpo.

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        • RoseIsabella
          6 years ago

          I think OP's girlfriend would be smarter if she had more fiber in her diet. I think her brain is constipated.

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  • BlueOrangeBalls
    6 years ago

    Tell her that you are ready to leave work if she is willing to pay for university

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  • Boojum
    6 years ago

    Your girlfriend sounds immature and needy.

    Grownups in a relationship understand that it ain't all running hand-in-hand across sunny meadows, gazing into each other's eyes over candle-lit dinner tables and having long, heart-to-heart conversations about the life you'll share. The real world intrudes, and sometimes its demands make it hard to find time for the relationship.

    If you are genuinely doing your best to find time to spend with your girlfriend and the limited time you can give her is not sufficient for her, then it sounds to me like she's too stupid to understand how the real world works.

    Her dismissing your statement that you miss her as a lie is a huge red flag. By saying that, she invalidated your feelings, and that's a profoundly disrespectful thing to do.

    You clearly have long-term goals and you have some idea where your life is going. For whatever reasons, your girlfriend is sabotaging that. You can't give your best in your studies and your work if you're constantly feeling stressed by your relationship with your girlfriend. It seems that you love and respect her, but what you say makes me wonder if she truly loves and respects you.

    I think you have a choice: stay with your girlfriend and forget about university, or stick with your life-plan and let your girlfriend go.

    She's unhappy and you're unhappy. You don't need to figure out how to make your relationship work because you share kids, a mortgage and a Labrador, so why stay together?

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  • Puppetmorty
    6 years ago

    She is incredibly immature.

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  • bubsy
    6 years ago

    Thank her for waving these red flags in your face. She's not relationship material.

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  • Smithers
    6 years ago

    She is dumb and should get dumped. You sound like a guy who has ambitions and willing to do what it takes for a bright future. Find yourself a girl who deserves such a man.

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  • RoseIsabella
    6 years ago

    Sounds like she doesn't know where money comes from or how bills get paid.

    Ask her if she'd rather be with some lazy bastard who'd rather waste all his time playing video games and watching porn. Ask her if she'd rather be with a guy who clearly has no future.

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  • Skittles23
    6 years ago

    You can say alot and you can say alittle. If you want to be grammatically correct you can say a lot and a little.

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  • JonathanOo
    6 years ago

    Yes it's normal. Some girls are offended when you spend more time at work than with them. You can't really change how they feel. And your "explanation" no matter how logical and real is simply an excuse in her view. You gotta
    accept it and do your best to see her as much as possible WHEN possible. Its definitely a lose lose situation

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    • cokezer0
      6 years ago

      I was supposed to see her yesterday but I was called into work in the evening. Even though we had time to go ahead with the plans she said there is no point? I had made the effort to buy her flowers, food etc but she still is upset with me stating how she feels I don't care for her.

      I tell her I miss her and she replies with "it's all lies".

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      • e51pegasi
        6 years ago

        If she is going on like this now, what is she going to be like in the future?

        Relationships are supposed to be fun, exciting & adventure you both enjoy.

        What you seem to be experiencing is unnecessary stress & grief. Stress & grief is for later in life, like when you are married. ;-)

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      • JonathanOo
        6 years ago

        Just keep trying, something may eventually work and she will feel cared for. Flowers, food, etc. Won't mean much if she still feels that way. Try calling or texting her more. Make it a point to include her as much as you can even if you're unable to be with her in person

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