Is it normal that my gf dumped me cause i'm lazy?

Women like that are pathetic. It makes the rest of us women look bad.

Unlike apparent "most" women I don't feel the need to have a man that needs to make a difference in the world. I dont need money I don't need a guy who goes to college for years or anything like that. If my man wants to be so called lazy then so be it. I'm the kind of girl that is happy as long as my man makes a difference in my life. And he has :-) I love my man with every inch of my soul and would be rather poor and happy rather than rich and miserable.

Women disgust me sometimes the way they set their standards so high they make it impossible to lead a normal life. Not to mention they screw guys over like OP here. It's stupid women of these days.

Some of them I think need to be smacked back into the 50's and taught a thing or two.

Hey bro, I feel just the same except you've accomplished a master's degree, WOW. I only have 8 or 9 computer related certs, got thru the AF, police academy, blah/blah. Anyways, I had to break it off with a gal I had an obsession for. We had history together, she was gorgeous, the only thing;;; she lacked character and she thought this was ok. She knew she could always land another man that would provide her a plush life. AFter our rship dissolved, I broke into her email and found out she joined Eharm already! Part of her profile reads she wants a man that isn't afraid to work hard and will treat her like a queen. We had two arguments over the fact that I have an injury sustained during Desert Storm and also Bipolar illness. I collect SSDI and V.A. lifetime comp which comes out to about $1990 tax free/monthly. I remember at the very/very first part of our 2nd rship together she tells me "you realize you are going to have to get a job right, you can't expect to support Austyn (her kid) and I on $2000" Can you believe that!? Well, she finally did change her attitude , became a dental asst, now she earns a paultry $1800 month which barely gets her and her son by. My point is, she couldn't accept me as I am. I can't work anymore, I'm a liabiity for any company, they won't hire me. I was once a brilliant Network Admin. Now she's like insisting this quality in the next man that courts her on Eharm, like must-come-with or need-not-apply! The nerve of some women, makes me sick!

Yeah I get you. I just see no point in someones motivation being education and career.

Of rather have those I love around me rather than be buried in work or gone all the time from the ones I love.

Women don't appreciate a lack of ambition in their men. Of the last five of my friends to split up or divorce, four of them were because the women wanted their men to do something more with their life (or at least try).

Just because you're fine with your laziness, it doesn't mean everyone has to agree with you. You have two options. Either you work harder to prove you care for someone or you find a woman who doesn't give a stuff about whether you do something or not.

You reap what you sow.

well i can understand both points of view, yours and hers. she shouldnt have just dumped you for being lazy, she should have explained why it bothered her. but from her point of view, she probably wants a guy who would look after her and secure a future etc for both of you. how is she going to know that you are going to look after her if you cant look after yourself? im not saying that this is what she was thinking but it could be one reason.

I think she is talking more than just your degree. It sounds like she wants ambition and drive. Someone who is going to make a difference in the world. You need to talk to her. You won' find your answer here. Call her.

AND ONE other comment, if I may.... How can a woman/gal so easily shove the love/emotion/caring/feeling/passion for you off to one corner of her mind so quickly, so coldly, so blatantley. How can they do that so easily!!? Take my ex, within a wk she told me that I used to be her best friend, she used to love me only a couple of wks ago mind you!! What is that all you girlys out there?! Your playing with our emotions, and we don't like it! :>\

A bit of an update. I recently received an email from my ex saying that she misses me a lot and she think about me all the time... after a fcking year...
I know that currently, she is with someone else... Very confusing situation for me, any ideas of whats going on? (Even now I wish we never broke up, but, I don't think i can take her back even if it's possible...)

What I don't get is why isn't it enough for people just to have a job? What is the necessity for people to need a career? It's ridiculous. I've known some very happy people that don't have careers. Why? Because they are actually home enough to get married and have kids and spend time with their families. As opposed to career folk who never have time for anyone except themselves.

Well, 8serene8, I definitely see where you are coming from. I think it is important that people see this type of situation from all perspectives. Your view of this subject is one of many opinions people hold re: happiness and careers. However, others have a very different feeling and approach to same.

There are studies that show that the majority of people place their self worth on their careers and their contribution to society. That is why during recessions or just smaller-scale layoffs at specific companies, there will be a high suicide rate of those affected. Many people just put so much weight on their own self worth with their careers.

Now, you may not be one of those people. There is nothing wrong with that. Everyone has different goals and motivations in life. As well, these particulars can and sometimes do change as people get older or experience different major changes in their life.

I consider a career and education very important in my life. It doesn't make me any better than the next guy, whose motivation is family, or the next guy whose motivation is his artistic contribution to the world. I could go on, but you catch my drift.

Why do you need to expect a man to be something he is not?

Not everyone feels the need to have a career (which by the way will go nowhere) anyways.

if i'm doing my MA and plan to be, at the very least, a high school teacher, i expect my man to do AT LEAST the same..

And don't get me wrong, my man is not lazy. We get out and do things together. Maybe that was the real problem the girl had and she just didn't have the balls to bring it up. There is a big difference between being uber lazy ( never doing anything besides sitting on the couch) and being lazy sometimes because it's nice to just relax for a day or two.

People don't need to get out and "make something of themselves" this world isn't worth making a difference in. I'm happy just being with my man. I do not need anything else (except maybe more privacy for us lol).

Laziness is off-putting for women, including for me. Its nice to have a man with interest and ambition. Yes you have the brain and the capability to be great but if you dont show it then it might as well not be there in the first place. I say you need to get working and get more energetic.

women want men who have something going for them career wise. it has nothing to do with her wanting your money or needing it. i would never want to introduce my bf/sig. other to my friends and family as a guy who doesn't do anything (great) for a living.

True that.

Women want someone who can be equal to them, and you sound like you aren't equal. It sounds like she will leave you behind, in the dust, when she starts her career, and you are still relying on your parents for money and your looks and charm for attention.