Is it normal that my gf doesnt want to do anything to my penis?

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My girlfriend and I have been going out for just under a year now. When I first started dating her she wasn't interested at all in anything sexually but as i started to spend more time with her she started warming up to the idea that I can please her. So every time I would go to her house, I would please her. Because I wanted to not because she was forcing me or anything.

After a while I started asking for her to do stuff to me. To make me ejaculate, she said yeah she would try but nothing. She doesn't like giving me a blow job (but I have her oral sex and she loves it), so i dont ask for bjs. She cant give me a handjob because i aparently take too much time and end up hurting her wrist, she doesnt like to have sex with clothes on because she gets hurt by the rubbing motion. Essentially wat I'm trying to say is that she doesn't want anything to do with my penis. She holds it and calls it her friend but that's all she does, I have ejaculated 5 times in just under a year with her and that's because I had to rub my self down and she watched awkwardly.

I love her. She loves me. I'm 100% sure. Also the reasons she doesn't want to have sex is because she doesn't like her body and doesn't want me to see it with the lights on and she will not have sex with me because of it (I do see her tits and vigina but only when I perform orally) she doesn't trust condoms and she feels like she's too irresponsible to take birth control, so we don't have sex. I'm still a virgin and so is she.

P.s: I told her it was bothering me and that I wanted her to do something about it, she said she would change. This happened 4 months into the relationship and nothing has changed, so I kept reminding her and she said she would change, and she didn't so I tryed to break up with her... she wouldn't let me she was going crazy and was about to commit suicide because of how much she loved me and that she couldn't and wouldn't live without me.

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  • Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress
    11 years ago

    if she said she'd kill herself if you left her it's time to call a therapist

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  • shade_ilmaendu
    11 years ago

    This relationship screams dysfunction. She seriously tried to kill herself when you wanted to break up with her? That's not a healthy dynamic at all.

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  • yukiko
    7 years ago

    i think is probable she loves you if you say she is true saying so, but obviously would like to be sexed other man penis, not yours, or maybe already does sexing other guys, just you don't know. I bet that is so she is more happy sex other boy already. But can you be ok she is sexed other men but is your otherwise?

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  • Gspyder
    10 years ago

    Run.

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  • x1frosty16
    11 years ago

    What they said up top and as for her talking about killing herself, yall sound like teenagers and its probably her puppy love for you and hormones all raging together.

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  • ccjigsaw
    11 years ago

    I'm assuming because she's inexperienced you are taking longer than normal, so it's frustrating her. Try to show her what's right and what's wrong. I didn't know a thing about handjobs and bjs until I got with my bf, I was not doing a very good job apearantly so he showed me the ropes. Things that seem normal to you aren't obvious to her. Things like grabbing the foreskin at the base of the penis and pulling that up and down (Sorry for the graphicness) To us ladies new at this shit, it just looks like your running your hand up and down. If she tried jerking you off with lube that would help to. At this point she's being lazy cause everythings been harder than it's had to be. Mention to her to try some of the things I mentioned and see if that work better? Hope it works out

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  • pappusharma
    11 years ago

    Give her some time, give her support, and don't worry, what you will get in return is something that u never expected. be with her, and be patient, you will get it.

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  • suckonthis9
    11 years ago

    I was fortunate to have grown up at a time when there was plenty of 'free love' going around. I learned many valuable things from (mostly) more experienced older women.
    For a young and / or sexually inexperienced female, a penis is an alien organ that can be somewhat uncomfortable, getting used to.
    Your girlfriend should be using an effective means of contraception. There are other alternatives to 'the pill', but this might be the best alternative, just remind her every day. This should be discussed at a Sexual Health Clinic. In the meantime, be very, very careful where you ejaculate, AND with Pre-ejaculate. A pregnancy can and sometimes does occur without penetration, this is called a virgin birth, and can be very dangerous for a young female.
    Many females do not enjoy giving oral sex to males, although many will, eventually, to please their male partners or out of simple curiosity, sometimes pretending to enjoy it. Some do enjoy it.
    You are in a catch-22 situation. You are both sexually inexperienced, but wish to remain monogamous. Things that you might want to try: If you know a more experienced couple, you could speak with them openly and frankly about sex, or perhaps if they are comfortable with it, watch (my former neighbour would let her teenage daughters watch).
    AFTER you are using an effective means of birth control, you might want to try to very gently, Bentley, rub your penis on the EXTERIOR of her vagina / pubic area. When she is ready, she will direct your penis inside. If and when this occurs, again, very gently, Bentley. Be very careful that an accidental penetration does not occur.
    You might also wish to read and learn from experienced Sex Therapy Experts, such as Sue Johanson.

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  • AssBurgers
    11 years ago

    Dump her, she sounds pathetic. If she loved you she'd return the favour.

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  • Terence_the_viking
    11 years ago

    She's doing stuff to somebody else's penis that is why.

    Maybe she finds your penis ugly.

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