Is it normal that my friends don't like me?

My group of friends there are about 9 of us ever one has a best friend in our group except me. When we change seats at lunch you sign up for a table and sit there for the grading period. When we changed seats ( there are 8 seats at a table) i got left out and no one felt bad for me. I tried to convince my closest friend in the group to come sit at a different table with me but she just laughed and said " it isnt my fault you couldmt get a seat fast enough" I dont have any other friends so i have no one else to sit with. What do i do to make new friends? I am an outgoing and fun person naturally and i think my friends think they are too cool to make themselves look stupid just to have fun. There is one girl who says im one of her best friends but she never invites me to do anything or text or calls me just to chat. No one does. Please help.

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  • Poots

    The hard truth is that this is a good life lesson, preparing you for life. There is no such thing as a true friend. You will find this out when you go through something utterly devastating in your life and your friends become scarce because they don't want to hear about it. People are selfish by nature. I've always been the good listener type. I'm sick and tired of all my so-called friends because they are only fair-weather friends and they want to do all the talking and NEVER give me a chance to talk. I have to butt in and then I can tell they're not listening but just thinking what they're going to say next. I can see the simpleton mechanisms working inside their pea brains. People suck. Use people for what they can offer you. They're good for nothing else. If you become depressed, they won't be there, nor will your family. It's a dog eat dog world, and for people to act like it's an Oprah-type fantasy world where people help others is ridiculous.

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    • rotckid

      Agreed

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  • magicpears

    Your friends sound like jerks. You should find new ones.

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  • Sweetz

    Ditch them "SO CALLED FRIENDS"

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  • hippychick

    Poots...what you said is entirely untrue. My best friend and I have seen each other through everything (heartbreak, cheating loved one, pregnancy...you name it) and have only become stronger.

    You can't say that this doesn't exsist simply because you've not experienced it.

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  • artFreak

    Hey.. don't get desparate.. i might be wrong, but u sound to me like u really have to have a best friend and that u really seek it.. Just let it.. don't overthink it.. Yr friends sound a bit arrogant to me. But u have to realize that if they don't like u, this won't work out.. even if u r not alone u will feel. So just let it be. Talk to other ppl, be yourself, and then u will realize who actually likes u.. Just don't be stressed about it.. It's like love ;p when u seek for it, when u overthink for it, it never comes!
    Remember real friends are the ones who listen to u, and u listen to them.. that's the basic!!

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  • Being a good friend is hard too. I will admit that there are certain friends that I do not take seriously when they come to me for a problem. If that friend is a complainer by nature, then I will usually not care too much about their problems. Some people merely want you to agree with them on matters and become upset when you tell them what they don't want to hear. Generally though, I am flattered when a friend trusts me enough to ask me for my advice. If I don't know what to say because their situation is annoying or shocking, then I don't say anything at all I just listen. People also like it when you ask them questions about their problems because it shows them that you are interested and paying attention. Showing people that you care about their problems is beneficial in that it strengthens your friendship. It's also nice to take a break from your own life to help a friend out with a dilemma.

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  • You are so focused on getting a best friend amongst the group you are hanging out with, that you are missing out on opportunities to make friends with the people who actually want to be your best friend.

    That girl that refers to you as her best friend... Do you ever call her? Maybe you need to be the one to step up and initiate a tighter friendship with her.

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