Is it normal that my friends don't ever call me or text me?

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So I am a sophomore at a college away from home. My first year i lived in a dorm and became friends with random people in the hall. At first they were my friends and then slowly stopped hanging out with me (for reasons ill get to). I then clung to my best friends from home's group, who are from the same hometown as i am, and they welcomed me into their group. I now have a house with 5 of them, including my best friend, and we get get along fairly.
I still long for friends outside of my hometown and wish not to be clung to the group of my hometown. I had friends from my dorm but they never call me up to hangout or anything. I always see pictures of them hanging out on Facebook and makes me depressed that they dont call me. I don't know why, i try to be nice and everything, but i have small intuition it is because we come from different parts of the same state and there is a small rivalry between us. Is it normal for friends to just not call one another to hangout, or does that mean they just dont want to hangout? Do i really have to go out of my way ALL the time to contact people?

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  • thefigtreeeeee
    12 years ago

    Ok the truth is this...

    IF your friends dont contact you then they are NOT your friends its as simple as that. Real friends WILL contact you because they love you and care about what happens in your life. Its the fake friends who disappear out of your life when they are no longer with you. And also dont accept the excuse that they are busy becuase thats not true what they really mean is.... you have nothing to offer me so why should I talk to you?

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  • hamwich
    11 years ago

    It sounds like they're a part of a clique that you aren't a member of. Forget em. :P

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  • AssBurgers
    12 years ago

    This would've been bad if it was your hometown friends who'd stopped contacting you. Just forget about those other chumps, if you want friends from outside your town then you could always try making some on the 'net?

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    OP I understand completely where you are coming from, I dont talk to any of the friends I had growing up at all. Life goes on, and moves in different directions. If you really feel like it, try contacting them, if they dont bother getting back to you at all then dont bother them again. I did the same thing when I was around the same age, when they didnt get back to me I didnt bother trying again. And life went on. No big deal.

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  • iamacheeseburger
    12 years ago

    Maybe they're scared to initiate it. Why don't you take a step, no matter how hard it seems, and call one of them! It won't make you seem creepy or desperate, people will applaud you on being daring enough to take a stand and ask someone to hang out.

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  • NeuroNeptunian
    12 years ago

    It's normal. The people that they are hanging out with are probably THEIR hometown friends, or friends that they have known for a while. So yes, you're probably going to have to go out of your way to contact people. Sometimes it is difficult to work your way into another social group and it sounds like you are experiencing the need to do that.

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