Is it normal that my friends don't ask me to go places

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I'm a shy girl who doesn't drink or smoke and care more about school then getting drunk. I mostly don't drink or do drugs cause of my sister and brother have some issues with control and substance amount. My friends however mostly love to do these things. They would ask me at the beginning to go to parties but I never wanted to go because I don't really like or fit into the "popular crowd". Also, most of the time I had work to do or I just wanted to be alone after a long week of school. Is this normal to just want to be alone most of the time?

Back to my question, they first invited me but I didn't really want to go then. Now I kind of do and they don't ask me to come or even if they are going out to eat they don't ask me unless I'm the one who suggested it. I feel kind of hurt that they don't ask me. Yea I don't drink but I can still go and hang out with them. Do you think it's normal that they don't ask me cause they know I didn't want to go before?

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  • dappled
    12 years ago

    They tested the water by asking you along and you didn't want to. They may feel snubbed, or understand that you just didn't want to go. Now that you do want to, though, you're going to have to make the effort of including yourself rather than them (they've already made the effort once).

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  • Seustewart
    10 years ago

    I'll take you out. You don't need people like that in your life. Stay on the straight and narrow and you'll have the power to hire and fire them one day. :)

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  • VeryOldWiseOne
    12 years ago

    Why you want to go out with those pathetic losers? They will end up as pathetic drunkards, living on welfare, or with some dead-end job, complaining all the time that life isn't fair to them, like this whole generation of Americans, that are getting our Country down the drain!
    Try to find a better crowd to hang out with, and get your mind and face in the books so you can get a good scholarship, go to some Ivy league school, and get a nice diploma that will give you a good job, and money, to buy boats, ferraris, nice penthouse condos, a vacation villa in Europe and nice expensive hotel suites over Dubai. You just need to study a lot to get there... Forget about those drunkard losers...

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  • cannibus14
    12 years ago

    wow i was on the exact other side of this
    my roommate last year didn't want to do anything so we stopped inviting her out and this year she seems to not have any friends.

    maybe it was in my head but i started to feel judged by her and didn't want to talk about our nights out around her because i got a vibe from her that made me feel like a stupid valley girl that doesn't care about school work.

    if she talked to me about wanting to hangout i would definitely invite her places, even if she still doesn't drink. we always liked her we just didn't know if she liked us.

    maybe you should talk to your friends and explain your sibling situation? if they don't get it or still don't invite you then hangout with other people. what do you have to lose ?

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  • hellostrangers
    12 years ago

    Yes, it is normal. That first invite out is critical, (to your age group at least) if you say no the invites tend to stop. You are going to have to mention going out to them yourself.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    Take the initiative and ask them.

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  • Ldizzy1234
    12 years ago

    Its normal. Sometimes I wanna be alone too. And its really understandable to want some alone time after a long week of school/work. And I agree with both AngAnders and dappled. Take their advice.

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  • AngAnders112
    12 years ago

    just be open with them. tell them you like and want to hang out with them, and still have a good time. if they're your friends, then you should communicate with them.

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