Is it normal that my friends doing this?

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Ok so I met this guy at my work and never really talked much at the start but as time went on we became really good friends and I started to fall for him.

The crush was getting super intense and we would hangout and text alot. One day I asked him if he wanted to hangout with me and one of my friends and he did. I told my best friend that I had a crush on him. And they became friends too.

Now she's being really shady she texts him all the time and he never texts me anymore. And he quit his job so I don't see him at work anymore. One time I broke and I got mad at her and called her a hypocrite because she was talking to my crush and and she always says she hates when girls talk to other girls bf and she's my best friend and she said she wouldn't never date him because I like him.

We got in a fight one day and when we made up i found out she got grounded for smoking weed with him and she knew we were in a fight and I know shed be mad if I was friends with the guy she liked but she doesn't care if she does it to me. I kept calm when she told me that becuz I don't know if its normal or not what she's doing and I didn't wanna come off as jealous or controlling of someone who doesn't even like me. Its not the fact that my crush doesn't like me that bothers me. Even if he liked her that wouldn't bother me either. Its the fact that she doesn't respect my crush on him. And she's my best friend if I can't trust him I wanna be able to trust her. I can't help but be jealous and it bothers me alot and I don't know if it should or not. Is it normal to act the way she is towards my crush? Should I not be feeling this way?

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  • ProseAthlete
    10 years ago

    I think your friend is being kind of a jackass to you, and I admire your wisdom in realizing that you can't control other people's behavior. You can, however, control how you interact with them. In her case, I would move her down from "best friend" status to "acquaintance" status.

    Friends don't drop their friends to text and smoke weed with their friends' crushes. Your intuition is right; she's being a bad friend, not so much for spending time with your crush but for treating you so callously.

    I know I said it before, but I really respect your maturity in staying calm and sorting out your feelings. It's often tough to unpack how you should handle something like this.

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  • Faceless
    10 years ago

    Go play.

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  • shuggy-chan
    10 years ago

    Cause I'm slim shady, yes the real slim shady

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  • dreamingBIG
    10 years ago

    Shes a frienemy half friendship half enemy.. She doesnt sound like a very good friend to me. She has no loyalty for you and went behind your back. She doesnt deserve your friendship. What else has she done on you behind your back that you dont know about?? Be careful ever confiding in her because shes sly and seems to use what you tell her for her own gain. Friends are supposed to be all for you and she isnt so shes not your friend. If she cared about you she would have considered your feelings. I dont think either of them deserve your time or energy.

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  • ygrowup
    10 years ago

    Sorry for your pain and loss of a good friend, but it seems it may be time to leave both of them far behind. For there is truly someone out there for you.

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  • Terence_the_viking
    10 years ago

    You should piss on her face this is a big betrayal.

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  • Respectgays
    10 years ago

    Respect gays

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  • H8er
    10 years ago

    Go talk bad about her in the lunch room. Isn't that what all the children do? If you seriously meet the 18 years of age required to be on this site, grow the fuck up. If your not, still grow the fuck up.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      10 years ago

      Stfu I never said id talk bad behind her back becuz of this. I just wanted to know if its normal wat I'm feeling and stuff. U should grow up and dont comment on my shit unless you have something useful to say.

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      • H8er
        10 years ago

        They like each other now but she doesn't want to hurt your feelings. I thought this was a site for freakish weird things you were afraid to ask, not the ramblings of a 14 year old.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          10 years ago

          Go home seriously, I'm not 14 your a loser and no your wrong, I figured it out now. Go take your know it all ignorant ass somewhere else seriously. Your probley a middle aged loser that spends their time beaking teenagers on a site. Your so cool, I wish.... Lol

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          • H8er
            10 years ago

            Nope 22 years old and yes I do know it all thanks for noticing :)

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            • Anonymous Post Author
              10 years ago

              Lol obviously u dont know It all when i dont,know what know It all means. It means You think,You know It all. Your still a loser get a life

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