Is it normal that my friends daughter behaves this way?

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So for the record I'm 5'9, 310 lb female. I was at my friends house watching tv and admitedly we were eating junk ( chocolate Cadbury eggs, soda & nachos etc) and anyway her 10 year old daughter came home from school and sat with us. I offered her some of the snacks and she says "nuh uh I don't want to end up biiiiig and fat...." Then she giggled, poked me in the stomach and goes "like you!" And skips off singing the theme from charlie and the chocolate factory with the bit about guzzling sweets and laughing.... Her mom (who isn't overweight) just apologized and said to brush it off because she thinks her daughter is "ADD" But now whenever I see them her daughter tells me I need to exercise and will run circles around me at times 'playfully' taunting me and spouting "health advice" as if a ten year old knows anything & even stole my phone and ran off with it to "get me to burn calories". it kinda bugs me, especially since her mother is such a close friend of mine and just allows this behavior/looks the other way!? am I too sensitive?? :-/
Should I tell my friend this isn't normal behavior and she needs to parent better?

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  • thegypsysailor
    8 years ago

    I'm pretty sure that if you discuss her parenting skills, or lack thereof with your friend, she won't be your friend afterwards. People tend to react quite negatively to comments in that area.
    I'd just not take it all so seriously and consider the source; a ten year old.

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  • ThatOneOfMe
    7 years ago

    At least she's criticizing you for something that is a legitimate problem. Kids may not say things in the best ways possible, but they'll be more honest with you than anybody else. Also, saying "as if a 10 yo knows anything" comes across as an excuse that tries to deny any truth behind her accusations.

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  • IMissMary
    8 years ago

    Think of it this way.

    You are a positive inspiration in this child's life. Because of you she will stay thin and healthy, not get diabetes, high blood pressure etc and die of a heart attack. You saved her life!

    Good job!

    See you just have to think positive

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  • ConscientiousAdvice
    7 years ago

    When I was young, 10ish, I had an Aunt who smoked. I was really concerned about her getting lung cancer and would steal cigarettes right out of her mouth, smash her packs of cigarettes whenever I could, and throw lighters away, etc. It's likely this child is actually concerned about you and is "Helping" you in the only way she knows how. Unfortunately, that comes across as rude to you. Maybe your friend should have a talk with her daughter about her methods. But I personally think she is just trying to help. Further more you should probably take this as a sign to make some healthy lifestyle changes and lose some weight for your own good. Maybe even ask the mother if she would be interested in walking or biking together and get the kid involved. It could be a bonding experience for all of you.

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