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Is it normal that my friends (I've known them for almost five years) are ignoring me and only talking to me when no one else is there for them to talk to? Last year they used to talk with me when there were lots of people for them to talk to. I'm practically alone. Is this normal?
Rather you should ask, what could I be doing wrong?
Am I offending them with my personality?
Do we not have the same interests?
There's gotta be a reason somewhere
Time to get some new friends! Better off having no friends than bad friends. NBD happened to me with five people at once. Such a joy. There's probably no reason, maybe they're jealous. Unless you've done something unspeakable or have become unbearably annoying. Other than that... it's them. Not you.
I haven't done anything like that...but I do have a hard time making friends because I'm shy and some people are sort of scared of me =\
I have this problem. Most women will look at me and not be offended, but put off. I have a face that always looks angry. Friendship wise, i don't even have family i can relate with! My best friends however, we don't speak often, they are my mentors, people i admire, usually married and much older than me.
Dont sweat people who ignore you, they just want to see you suffer. Real people who become great friends, they involve themselves into making you smile, or just by helping you with something
yeah.. we had this friend in our group for 10 years, we all always having fun together, going for a trip or sports. He not closed with me but it doesnt bother because I though he must have closed with someone else here.
One day, we all realised non of us can deal with him one on one, non of us willing to have lunch with him alone, we all agreed that having conversation with him alone is silence and arkward....
we started to asked, why was he here who is his most buddy? well we guess he just enjoyed himself here... being in the group but not closed with anybody here... he is still here now.... joining any events we make... he look happy too... and it doesnt bother either
Was there any dramatic event in the recent past that might have triggered all this weirdness per chance? These people don't sound like real friends to me. If you really want to remain friends with them you could take an inventory of the events of the past year and a half or so. Then review that inventory with yourself and a mentor type of person like a therapist or pastor. If it turns out there's nothing that you've done wrong and need to make amends for then just do your best to forget about these people and move on.
Also if and when you decide to take an inventory of your interactions with these people don't be afraid to ask yourself the hard questions like: have you ever gotten sloppy drunk and embarrassed anyone or destroyed any property, have you ever borrowed any money and not repaid the person who loaned it to you, are you participating in any high risk activities like using hard drugs or shoplifting, have you gossiped about anyone and revealed secrets, etc. All the best to you.