Is it normal that my friends act in this way?

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Okay, so I've never had too many friends, but I have like a small circle of friends (5 friends) that are close to me. I really like all of them and I'm sure they feel the same. Recently, however, things started to fall apart. I've had a bad relationship and honestly I was so weak when it comes to it. It took me eternity to recover and I was literally miserable. They tried to cheer me up and we used to kinda talk about in the beginning, but now I feel like they're all being aloof. I know it's partly my fault cause at some point, I just stopped talking to anyone, but they kinda make feel they don't care either..After a while I just felt they wanted to tell me "suck it up". I know my attitude must have been unbearable when I just felt like crying, but that is NOT my normal way of behaving. I used to be more interesting, sensible and they know! So somehow I expected more support :S

It got worse with my best friend. I felt like because I let her see that vulnerable side of me for the first time (it was my first heartbreak), she kinda started to think it's okay to walk allover me! She kept telling me more than once to be strong and don't talk to that guy, and started to tell me that I shouldn't let people who treat me bad stay in my life. In her opinion, they do this because they KNOW I will just forgive them. Well the thing is, she started to take me for granted too. Like, whenever I call her or tell her I need help, she wouldn't answer. If I started to tell her about that guy, she would just ignore me or do anything else. She started to be so pushy all of a sudden. Once, she had like a bad situation, and I was trying to talk to her and ask her what happened, she was so upset about it, that she told me she doesn't wanna talk and just hung up on me! Is this really normal? What should I do with these people? Sorry for the looooong post, but I really feel so upset and confused.

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Mando

11 years ago

Take the high road. Plan a party. Bake a pie and call it "humble pie." Invite your friends over. Tell them you are serving humble pie because of how badly you behaved - and that it is time for a fresh start and renewed friendships. Put the drama in the past and leave it there.

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- myboyfriendsbitch
  
  11 years ago
  
  Beautiful : )
  
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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  11 years ago
  
  I like that too :D Sounds very forgiving and nice :D But honestly Mando, I'm not sure I can do this :S I still feel kinda hurt from their reactions, esp. my best friend. I'm telling you she started to treat me like a pushover or something :S Do you think I should just let it go? Wouldn't that simply prove her point? I know I must have been hard to deal with, I try to see things from their perspective too I swear, but really, they weren't even answering my calls! I feel hurt and lonely. I don't think I would treat any of them this way. They don't even ask anymore unless I ask first :S
  
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NormalIsOverratedBeANinja

11 years ago

I had the EXACT same situation a few years ago, no lie. She and I had been best friends for years, and all of a sudden she turned into a bitch. I took weeks to get over it, and I'll be honest, I cried a lot.
So in my opinion this is completely normal. I'm sorry about your friend and I hope you find a new one who will respect you as a friend. <3

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Energy

11 years ago

It sounds like you annoy them too much with your problems. Not everyone wants to listen to bad things all day. I'd say get a therapist. Even I don't bug my friends with issues all the time.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  11 years ago
  
  Maybe you're right Energy..I wouldn't like that either..But you know, it's not like I kept talking about this to them everyday. But sometimes somethings happened, that used to bring me down and I just needed someone to talk to..it's not like I complain all the time. Another thing, this was never my normal behaviour if you know what I mean. I was never this unhappy, dependent person. It was always the other way round, I used to listen to their problems, cheer them up, call them up and ask how they were doing..It just made me feel like betrayed when they all just vanished..It is not just about me talking about my problems..They wouldn't even call or make plans to hang out..Maybe I expected too much but it just made me feel so alone.
  
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  - Energy
    
    11 years ago
    
    Truth is some people LOVE listening to people and trying to comfort them...and then there's people like me. Annoyed and irritated by it. Mainly because I constanly go through my own shit...but I try and help people.. Just find the people that do like it. They're out there.
    
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myboyfriendsbitch

11 years ago

Sometimes it's hard for more than one brain to be in the same place.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  11 years ago
  
  Guess you're right
  
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Terence_the_viking

11 years ago

What kind i say they got tired of you.

A real friend will always be there for you no matter what i don't think you can call these people your friends.

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HarmonyJB

11 years ago

Yes, it is normal for your friend to be acting this way! She must be going through the faze where she wants to have all the attention on her, an wants everything to be about her! Or, I'm sorry to say this, she's loosing interest on you, and wants to find a new person, but it's probably my first answer! Most likely it's because she wants the attention from a boy (if she's not in a relationship) and she wants him to notice her, by making more drama, and causing this! I hope this helped!!! :)

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Jehucifer

11 years ago

TL;DR OP makes friends. Friends molest OP. OP is confused.

Assessment: Really abnormal.

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robbieforgotpw

11 years ago

Nice novel

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[Old Memory]

11 years ago

They're just the same people you find everywhere, self centered, wastes. I can't wait until "my day". I shall show former friends no mercy, except to tell them that their whole lives have been for nothing but "my little day".

My 24 hour crack-up.

The rest is silence.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  11 years ago
  
  I'm not sure I understand you :D
  
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  - Caps90
    
    11 years ago
    
    No one does that dude seems crazy. Maybe your friends are just buisy, and maybe they are trying to protect you from going back to your ex. Try having them explain why they think you forgive too easily.
    
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- Shackleford96
  
  11 years ago
  
  You sound like you have a suicide mission planned.
  
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