Is it normal that my friend treats me like

28% Normal
10 Comments

my bestfriend and I have been bestfriends for 3 years, I am a girl and hes a boy and we were REALLY close until all of a sudden he started acting controlling, I wasnt allowed to have any friends and I wasnt allowed to like the same stuff as him ect and then he started acting competitive like everything about him was better. When I told him I was suffering from depression he just made it harder for me, He always called me fat and a wannabe and stupid when I wasn't any of this stuff. I always tried to be a good friend encouraging him to do his homework ect but one day his told me how I am making his life miserable and I am a bad friend. The next day at school I had an outburst and grabbed him by his shirt and slapped him ( it didn't hurt though ) we haven't talked since and I tried emailling him that its better this way because he was mean and I am apparently in his words, annoying. Do you think it was fair for him to treat me this way ? Do you think it was normal for me to have that type of outburst ? Do you think we should still be friends ? What is his problem ? Am I a bad friend ?

Voting Results
28% Normal
Based on 58 votes (16 yes)
Help us keep this site organized and clean. Thanks!
[ Report Post ]
Comments ( 10 )
  • BitterSweet
    13 years ago

    He turned out to be a shit friend. He deserved the slap. Forget him.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    1
    1
  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    Screw him, the reason he acts the way he does is becuase he was probably sexually turned on by you so he wants to seem tough and cool. The problem is most guys don't know how to do that and they end up hurting the one they like. If I were you I would talk to him about his feelings and yours.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    1
    1
      -
    • nagasonavimana
      12 years ago

      I'll second this.

      Your friend is either trying to get into your pants using the least successful method known as "bad boy"
      OR
      He's frustrated by the fact that nether of you are in each other's pants and he's trying to get some distance so he doesn't feel guilty about being in another person's pants.
      OR
      He's started doing crack.

      Comment Hidden ( show )
      1
      1
  • aubcessed
    11 years ago

    NO. If it was me, from the day he/she would make me do their homework, i'd dump them as a friend.xD

    Sorry, I don't like doing anyone else's homeworks unless they have a good reason for it. Especially when it's my BF or someone I really like, i get turned off by it.

    As you can see just by this peeve i'm disgusted, then all of the meaner things he did to you is definitely a NO NO.

    Unless he explains why he does it and apologizes you shouldn't socialize with him anymore. If he does, you should still make a barrier, with what he's done, surely you can't go back to the way things were. You know better. :|

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    0
    0
  • XJayX
    13 years ago

    I don't think he's a real friend anymore, just try not to talk to him.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    0
    0
  • Anonymous Post Author
    13 years ago

    I am the poster to this,
    thank you guys a lot, I thank you a lot for taking my side and ps. now he is making the whole me getting mad at him thing into an insidejoke with his other friends...

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    0
    0
      -
    • RomeoDeMontague
      10 years ago

      He sounds like a possessive a***hole. You should stop being his friend. This is not a healthy relationship and he sounds kind of like an abusive boyfriend would minus the fact of dating. Yes you were right in slapping him. He has something seriously wrong with him. It is not you and you should forget about him. You do not deserve to be treated in such a manner. No one does.

      Comment Hidden ( show )
      0
      0
  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    No, he shouldn't treat his best friend of three years like that at all... There is really no excuse. And yeah for you to have an outburst like that, you just exploded from holding in all your upset feelings from dealing with all of his crap, seems normal. But you guys definitely should not stay friends unless he changes his attitude big time- why would you want to be friends with somebody who makes you feel like that and says all of those things to you? Honestly it doesn't sound like he's much of a friend anyway.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    0
    0
  • blondblueandwhite
    13 years ago

    it was wrong of him and it sounds like he has issues he is taking out on you and your reaction was normal everyone has a breaking point.... dont go crawling brack to him saying sorry you wernt wrong to react but do let him know if he wants to talk you still care for him and will be there to help him through hard times but that until he can treat you with respect and curtesy it has to be this way dont excuse his behavior

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    0
    0
  • Tlange
    13 years ago

    I think that he wasnt much of a friend if he was acting like that. I would suggest finding a new friend although it may seem hard to replace a bestfriend, it will happen! Just let him go.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    0
    0