Is it normal that my friend's use of my money is irritating me?

Okay so, before I tell what happened, it'd most likely help if you knew my own feelings about this. I am completely, absolutely, 100% anti-drugs. Just even the though that most of my friends do drugs, smoke, and drink underage makes me so disappointed and angry. Now I'm not going to tell my friends to not do drugs, it's not my concern how they spend their free time and what they do with their life. I've never tried drugs and I never will. Anyways, a few of my friends and I were on our lunch break at school and a friend of mine asked if she could use $5, I was feeling nice I suppose and just gave her $5 to use. I assumed she was going to get lunch because we were in a damn cafeteria, but instead, she went and bought a pipe, knowing full well how much that shit bothers me. I told her, give me $5. She said she no longer had it, so I told her that if she didn't give me $5 within a day, I am never going to speak to her again. And I meant it. But at that point she said she wouldn't pay me back and I was being a pussy. I don't know why, but this has bothered me to my very soul. I can't do work in class, I've been on edge all day long, and I've been kicking around everyone who tries to talk to me. Our friends have offered to give me $5 for her, but that's not the point. It's not my lack of $5 that's getting on my nerves, it's that she used my money to something I hate. I won't be satisfied until she loses $5 and I gain $5. And yes, perhaps I am over reacting but I can't change how I feel and I don't want to. I just wanted to know if this is a normal way to feel for someone who's as anti-drugs as I am? And if you could, tell me how I should deal with this.

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Comments ( 33 )
  • iEatZombies_

    It's really none of your business what your friend chooses to spend any money on. You lost the right to dictate where the money goes after you put it in the hands of someone with free will. It doesn't matter how you feel about what she buys, she doesn't owe you an explanation and she wasn't violating your friendship. Just don't give her any more money if you don't like it.

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    • thegypsysailor

      I absolutely and 1000% agree with you, iEatZombies_!
      Listen to this girl and save yourself all that heartache and aggravation.
      Losing a friend over $5 is really stupid and spending a whole day or more moping around like a 3 year old is even stupider.
      Grow up.

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  • green_boogers

    You are really bothered because really don't want to be her friend. Put lots of distance between the two of you.

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  • shortandtothepoint

    You don't sound very nice.

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    • Funeralism

      Based on?

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      • shortandtothepoint

        Your post. Just my opinion.

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        • kelili

          You were not in a good mood when you read it or you have read all the comments before posting yours.

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  • RainbowDischarge

    A 5 dollar pipe?

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    • Funeralism

      I guess. I don't know what the demand for a pipe is.

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    • handsignals

      That's what I first thought, what are you getting for five bucks.

      My second thought is how sad it is that the first world got the third world hooked on drugs now it's flipped and the third world has got the first world hooked.

      First world problems:
      WENT TO MY DEALER FOR HEROIN
      HE SAID "WILL OXYCONTIN BE OK"

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  • VirgilManly

    She doesn't sound like much of a friend if she knows your feelings on drugs then turns around and hits you up for Five bucks for a pipe.
    Rule 1- If you develop a drug habit then you better be able to pay for it yourself.

    Hang out with a better class of people. Consider it a lesson and today's lesson cost $5.

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  • Energy

    Wtf??? Are you seriously talking about weed? Do some research. You sound ignorant and biased on it. Why does she even hang out with you?

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    • Funeralism

      You did a great job of ignoring the point of this in every single way possible. I did not ask what you thought of my view on drugs.

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      • Energy

        Cool story. You're still ignorant on cannabis.

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        • Canttel!

          Your retarded in so many ways

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          • Energy

            You're* Guess you're the retarded one after all, hm?

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  • KeddersPrincess

    Me, personally, I would never be friends with someone like that. I'm not saying be rude to them. I'm not even saying to judge them, but they obviously don't have your best interest in mind (or their own from the looks of it). My advice to you is to not waste time on people like that. You seem like a smart girl (or guy). I encourage you to hang around people who are making good choices, and never ever give money to someone who you have doubts are going to be wise with it to begin with.

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  • ThisIsImpossible

    I think if you just gave her a 5 for no reason its not your 5 anymore. Theres nothing wrong with being anti drugs but you should give things a try before you take such a harsh stance on something you dont truly understand.

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    • Funeralism

      (OC) So you're saying I should try drugs before deeming them harshly?

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      • ThisIsImpossible

        Well yeah, if you want to. If you dont want to, dont, and let it be.

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        • Funeralism

          [OC] But isn't that like saying don't judge rape until you've been raped? It doesn't take experience to know drugs aren't good things. It's something most six year old children could understand.

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          • ThisIsImpossible

            I didnt tell you to hurt anyone, not even yourself. Its not the same. Maybe you dont understand, but hey whatever makes life easier, even if its believing everything you were told since you were six.

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          • KeddersPrincess

            Not sure what ThisIsImpossible is trying to tell you and I'm sure that you're smart enough to already know this, but I've got to say it anyway. I don't encourage you to do drugs. Judging by the experience I've seen from a lot of people who've done or do them, they definitely don't lead you down a healthy road, if you know what I mean.

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      • Lol its weed.

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        • Funeralism

          Then ecstasy, then coke, then you're dead.

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  • Holzman_67

    I understand the principle yes

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  • dickwashington

    i mean what she did was wrong she knew you dont like that stuff and she spent your money on it thats kinda of a jerk move

    but i dont understand why you hang around these people?

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    • Funeralism

      [OC] Well I don't care if someone wants to smoke weed, that's their personal choice as long as they don't try and persuade me to try it or tell me about their experiences. And I have a friend who I like, this girl is more her friend than mine. I mean, she's my friend, but I could live without her.

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  • EccentricWeird

    I'm against most illicit substances people consume for recreational purposes. But you can't fix a drug-addicted friend. No matter how much you try. And it's their problem.

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    • Funeralism

      I wouldn't call her a drug addict, she just occasionally smokes weed, drinks, and often smokes cigarettes. But that's not the problem. I don't care what she does as long as she doesn't involve me in it-- and she doesn't. The point is, she knows how I feel about that kind of stuff and knows damn well that it would bother me if she did that with my money but she did it anyways.

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      • EccentricWeird

        Drug addicts don't like my post.

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