Is it normal that my friend hates me because i am sincere?

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I have this friend (let's call him "Charlie") who is well intentioned but quite immature. He is mostly nice, but sometimes he acts like a selfish asshole with everyone. The thing is that he doesn't even realize he does that.

All my other friends have grown kind of resentful of him. I try to defend him, but there isn't much I can do.

So, lately I have been trying to explain Charlie why he is not acting in the best possible way. I really tried to make him realize that people are getting angry at him and that he will stay alone if he doesn't do anything... But instead of solving anything, he now hates me. He said that he doesn't want to be my friend anymore because I always "criticize" him. He even told me that our friendship means nothing to him and that he doesn't want to hang out with me anymore.

Now Charlie spends time only with those other friends that secretly despise him more and more every day... And well... I just don't know if I should do something or just expect things like this to happen over and over again...

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  • NeuroNeptunian
    10 years ago

    Just leave it alone.
    I've dealt with my fair share of kids like him who have absolutely zero social skills or common sense.

    He'll figure it out himself when they begin to shun him. Either that or he is so slow that he will remain confused.

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  • RoseIsabella
    10 years ago

    Yeah, this normal. Just let poor, stupid Charlie be. I would suggest that you not try to explain anything to Charlie unless he asks you to also understand that you can't make him realize anything. Basically you're powerless over Charlie; his thoughts, opinions, emotions and actions. But the good news is that you are not responsible for him. He's got that free will that God gave him and maybe someday he'll come to his senses but more than likely he's probably just one of those people who needs to learn things the hard way. Also I would take a good hard look at the other friends who are talking about him behind his back. They could just be blowing off steam and if they talk about him behind his back there's a good chance they might do the same gossiping about others, yourself included. The only reason I mention this is because despite what they say about him they're still hanging out with the guy. I went through something similar almost a year ago with three friends and it totally blew up in my face.

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  • Holzman67
    10 years ago

    what?
    whaaaat?
    what!

    that's crazy! that's crazy talk!

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