Is it normal that my female friend is acting this way?

A mutual friend of my best friend of six years introduced herself to me. She initially showed a lot of signs that she was interested in me. She was always the one to initiate conversations with me, complimenting me, etc. She kept introducing me to only her female friends. This went on for several weeks.

However, once I asked her to prom, things started to get out of hand. She first thought that it was "really sweet", gave me a hug, etc. But she came up with a convenient excuse for not being there, which was "going out of town". I still can't confirm if this is a lie or not, but if it was a lie, that's a pretty big one to tell (apparently she told all her friends that she's going out of town too). I asked her to hangout sometime, she said "yes whenever I have free time". Even after this, the whole "initiate conversations and complimenting" continued until a few days after me asking her to prom she turned cold and stopped doing her usual routine (well, she didn't stop it completely, but it was much less than usual and she gave me a cold shoulder for the majority of the day). I then asked her to hangout again online (stupid mistake here), to which she replied that she was "busy all weekend". Using a psychology trick I heard about online, I asked when she was available, to which she replied "I don't know, but I'll tell you when".

What in God's name is going on?

In other words, is this behavior normal?

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36% Normal
Based on 36 votes (13 yes)
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Comments ( 20 )
  • Shackleford96

    I'd stay away from that chick, she sounds dangerous (emotionally that is).

    But I didn't go to prom either. I didn't make up some lame ass excuse though, I just straight up didn't go because I thought the whole thing was lame.

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    • shuggy-chan

      meeee too well when i was inhigh school... 5 years ago... IM OLD. WAHHHHHH Q~Q

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      • Shackleford96

        Lol, there's always those reunion parties they have though.

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    • Big_Boss

      How odd, that makes it sound like she's EXACTLY like my ex. O_O

      Would it be wrong to go with her best friend, though?

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      • Shackleford96

        I would be inclined to think yes, that would probably cause problems.

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        • Big_Boss

          *Several weeks later*

          Things have changed, she is no longer acting the way I described, but more flirtatious and teasing (verbally).

          Out of pure boredom I asked her to hangout again several times. She gave me her number to me without me asking. She agreed to go on one day, but later cancelled for a situation beyond her control.

          O_O wat

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          • Shackleford96

            Okay. Maybe you should ask her out again?

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  • ccjigsaw

    She wants to be friends and you asking her to prom made her think you liked her more than that, so now she's avoiding you to avoid an awekward situation. I have a friend who is a NO relationship sort of person, and I see her do this to guys all the time.

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  • alv1592

    Sounds like she may have just been being nice, doesn't mean she was romantically interested. You probably misunderstood. But maybe she still wants to be friends, so good luck with that.

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  • Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress

    I suspect she never wanted to be your girlfriend.

    It sounds like she was trying to be your friend but ... you interpreted it as romance. That's probably why she's "cold" now - she knows if she's friendly you'll think she's hitting on you again. So she's backing off to let you down easy.

    I would suggest stop pestering her to hang out - accept that she doesn't want to date you and accept her friendship as just that: friendship.

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  • Yeh I agree with the above comments, you are in the friendzone. Either that or she doesnt find you to be "dating" material, for whatever reason. I would leave it alone and not bother contacting her at all anymore. You'll just get more bullshit from her, and there is a fine line between pursuing and being creepy.

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  • Captain_Kegstand

    From what I am reading here, sounds like you have been "friedzoned". Sorry bro, it happens to the best of us.

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    • Subfinmatic

      "friedzoned" Is it tasty?

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      • Captain_Kegstand

        HAHA "friendzoned" I need to proof read. I make a lot of mistakes like that!

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  • dappled

    From the way you tell it, it sounds like maybe a misunderstanding. This is one of those times where I'd love to see her post a story about it too. You'd be amazed how much we all think we're on the same page when actually we're not.

    One point, though - I wouldn't recommend using psychology tricks on her, even if they work.

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  • Almostreal

    Maybe you're being too clingy? She might like you but not want to hang out all the time.

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  • JollyPolly

    Perhaps she's undecided on you but is keeping you interested (with compliments etc.) until she figures out if she wants you or not.

    Or perhaps she's figured out she's just not that into you but can't break it to you yet.

    Girls are complex creatures, it's quite normal that alot of us have issues. You should tell (and expect) her to be honest with you if you're friends.

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  • anti-hero

    IIN to post questions with vague titles?

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    • Big_Boss

      IIN to pride yourself on being an asshat?

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      • anti-hero

        I never said I was proud of it. haha

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