Is it normal that my feelings of love changed the moment....?

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I have been dating a 31 year old man for 10 months. I fell in love with him after about 4 months and one day out of nowhere he started telling me how he didn't see long term and wished me well. Two weeks later he came back saying he wasn't sure but still couldnt commit to me. He said at his age he wants to commit to someone only if he is sure it would work out long term.

2 weeks ago (dating 9+ months)I told him to leave me alone and not contact me again. He knew it was because he couldn't commit. But then a week later I got drunk and called him. We saw each other again normally and then last night he told me that he likes me a lot and even listing the qualities he loves most and how he isn't interested in dating anyone else. He also said that he wants both of us to delete our online dating profiles.

Bottom line is ... now suddenly I don't feel like I want a serious relationship with him. but meanwhile just a week ago I was bawling my eyes out praying to god he would love me.

I've got to know.... is this normal?

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Based on 46 votes (35 yes)
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Comments ( 6 )
  • Ellenna
    9 years ago

    Either you two could have a very interesting relationship where you actually get to work out why you have similar patterns of getting close and then moving back in relationships OR you'll drive yourselves and each other crazy with the games ....... your choice

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  • joybird
    11 years ago

    Human nature to want what you can't have and not to value anything that you can have too easily.

    You thought you knew what you wanted until he offered it, then you got a rude awakening. It sounds as though you need to dump him and delete his number so you don't call him when drunk. It's not fair sending him mixed messages, anyway he's too old for you.

    Get out there and enjoy yourself.

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    • Miss.Curious
      11 years ago

      I guess I need to talk to him and end things since I don't think I can overcome to feelings of resentment towards him.

      You really think he's too old ? haha I'll be 26 four months.

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      • joybird
        11 years ago

        I say anyone's too old who's trying to tie you down in a committed relationship.

        Wish I'd to do it all over again - I'd be dating 4 or 5 at the same time forever!!!

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  • Captain_Kegstand
    11 years ago

    Normal, you moved on! (btw don't drunk dial your ex's, i'm currently in a massive drama streak from making that mistake"

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    No. Pull yourself together.

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