Is it normal that my father think's he knows what type of food i eat?

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I'm twenty years old first off. I'm not some 15 year old who won't eat or a 10 year old complaining about veggies. However, I will also mention I have a seafood allergy that my parents refuse to acknowledge even though a doctor has stated he agrees with it. Beyond those matters, everytime I refuse to eat something cooked by my dad (95% of the time it's seafood) he insists: "OHHHH you never ate this before"(Salmon, thrown up at least 3 times in their presence) or "Oh, you love this, you ate it two years ago, I remember" (Pork cutlets. Have hated anything with pig since I was a kid, including bacon).

My question: Is it normal that my father insists that I eat what he makes while I am 'back from school' even when he NEVER asks me what I want (My step-mom actually does, and she sometimes tries to protest his temper tantrums.) to eat?

I will also mention, the maturity level he actually so small that he literally just came upstairs and yelled at me and swore at me for my step-mom asking me if I wanted to eat something else besides pork.

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  • Soph_Jane
    12 years ago

    Sounds like your dad has control issues. Maybe sit down with him and explain that you're happy to cook for the family sometimes to help out, but that you can't eat seafood and you don't eat pig. If that doesn't work, move out. You're 20.

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  • noatomsk
    12 years ago

    Write him a list of things you can eat.

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  • DannyKanes
    12 years ago

    Or just refuse to eat it. Eventually he'll get sick of making it.

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  • 1000yrVampireKing
    11 years ago

    I think this has to be some kind of child abuse. How can he force you to eat something that will possibly kill you? That is like forcing kids to drink bleach since apparently its no big deal.

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  • graphic_nature
    12 years ago

    I'm 23 and my dad refuses to acknowledge that I despise mushrooms. Everytime I visit he serves me something with mushrooms all over it. I bitch about it, pick them out ignoring his (eat them they're expensive! What kind of greek are you?!) and I'll scoop them onto his plate or leave them on the counter in my plate. If I threw them out he would be angry.

    Of course I don't have to deal with it often, I moved out when I was 18. He can bitch and moan all he want's but don't give in to eating it. Also seriously no bacon? ham? sausage? You're missing out.

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    • Energy
      12 years ago

      I dislike mushrooms, myself! :P

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  • Avant-Garde
    12 years ago

    He does sound very controlling and in denial of your allergies.
    At least, your step-mom is kind and smart enough to understand you.

    Try getting a appointment with a therapist for all of you, then you and your step-mom can address your thoughts/concerns on his bizarre behavior. Till, then see if you can make your own food or stay somewhere else, like with friends or relatives. Someone, who knows how to better care for you and your needs. Good luck:)

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