Is it normal that my family members ignore my brother's issues?

My half-brother has some significant mental issues, but anytime someone brings this up, the rest of the family ignores them and continues to tell him that the things he does are anyone's fault but his own. He was married to a woman for less than a year and up until and during that time, he grew jealous of the Best Man because he stood too close to her, was jealous of the fact that her father held her hand down the aisle, did not permit her to have a job, go to the gym or have friends, used other people's money to go to school but kept flunking (and didn't pay anyone back), scared his wife because he had a shitty temper, and got a restraining order against her father because he had to come over to fix things and this made my brother feel inferior. When she got scared enough to leave, he threatened suicide and refused to allow her to divorce him, saying that she was his property and that Biblical law does not allow her to divorce him. He then went to her father's house in the night, broke in through the window, and had sex with her one more time. Though he continued to see other women during the divorce process (even apparently having sex in our yard while we were away, according to a neighbor), he continued to claim that his then-wife was "[his], and shouldn't be able to see other people or leave [him]" during or after the divorce process. His ex-wife has a restraining order against him, and he still blathers on about shit he should have gotten over already (at one point, I was concerned that he might be stalking her). Whenever anyone points out that he has problems, he claims that everyone is 'attacking' him, and he blows up or just crawls away like a little insect and sulks for days on end. Despite all of this, my family members continue to tell him that nothing is his fault and anytime I suggest that he get counseling, they ignore me. Our family knows everything he's done, and yet, they still tell him it's not his fault and say that nothing's wrong with him. Is this normal?

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14% Normal
Based on 69 votes (10 yes)
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Comments ( 7 )
  • charli.m

    Is she pressing charges for the whole rape thing? They won't be able to ignore that...

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  • RoseIsabella

    Sounds to me like your family is in serious denial.

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  • None of this is normal. It sounds like he isn't the only one in the family with problems either. This guy has serious issues and i've seen alot of crazy behaviour.

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  • noid

    Of course it's not normal. Or shouldn't be.

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  • gummy_jr

    Damn

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  • Yellowsubmarine12786

    All the stuff he has done is absolutely not normal. But I understand ignoring his problems when he is around to make him feel better, or because of down right fear of him. But it is crazy that your family would not want to try and get him help or stop him. This man really does sound like he needs some serious therapy. The real scary thing is how many people there are like him out there that continue to successfully manipulate women like this.

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  • cupcake_wants

    he belongs in jail. you ought to tell his poor ex wife that if she needs anyone to testify that you'll be there. he obviously is evil and belongs in a cage

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