Is it normal that my family make me do everything round the house?

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im 22 living at home because im my mums carer, everyday im doing housework and cooking, but its never enough for my family, when they want something done im the one who has to do it, im always making tea taking the dog out etc , i dont get time to my self unless i go out, i go out 3 nights a week for a few hours to do some volentry youth work but as son as i get back home its do this do that is it normal that im the only one that ever does anything ?

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Based on 58 votes (33 yes)
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Comments ( 7 )
  • Goober166
    12 years ago

    Well, I'm same way. Helping is good thing but that can't be all your life... I'm trying get out of that...
    Good luck!

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  • Dot123
    12 years ago

    It is nice to help your family out, but they should also know they need to help themselves as well. And not make you do everything all the time.

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  • joybird
    12 years ago

    Tell them God gave them two legs to get up and do the things for themselves!!

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  • Dozis
    12 years ago

    Sounds to me like you are being treated as a slavish minion. Did they nickname you Kreacher yet?
    Just kidding. It's fine if they are bush doing something else or if they cannot do these things by themselves due to some degree of impairment in functioning.
    My mom has the same trouble, but she has an housekeeping obsessive compulsive habits.
    And I would not really care if she stopped doing these things, forcing me to live in some sort of dirty staple.
    Anyway I prepare my own tea. She doesn't know the right recipe.

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  • NeuroNeptunian
    12 years ago

    I don't really see it as normal. Don't let them become dependent on you. Unless they absolutely can not do it for themselves. Lax up and see if they pick up their own slack.

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  • Energy
    12 years ago

    Tell them how you feel. You're an adult. They should understand.

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  • AnalyticalAm
    12 years ago

    I feel like I would need more details to understand. You said you were your mom's caregiver? What does that consist of? Is your father, or any other adult figure in your life living there? Siblings? Do you get paid to take care of your mother?

    I know it sounds like a family obligation to care for your mother, but if it's interfering with your happiness, they may have to look elsewhere. You are entitled to your own life. You are still young, they have to understand that.

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