Is it normal that my family live like pigs?

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I have this embarrassing issue with my family-they have a horrible habit of being extremely unclean. I know it's normal for some people to be that way but if anyone saw the way they lived they would be in shock. It's to a point where I can't walk through the house without shoes on. I've been living like this ever since my parents got divorced and we moved when I was about 13. (I am now 24) Actually, it seems to have escalated because my brother is older but has picked up bad habits himself.

It's not just your usual mess- they chuck their rubbish on the floor. On the kitchen counter. Dirty dishes stay on the floor. My brother smoke and leaves cigarette butts in the toilet because it's "too cold" to smoke outside. My brother and mum leave dirty towels and clothes on the bathroom floor and don't bother putting them into the laundry basket. If something spills or food drops on the floor or kitchen bench, do you think they clean it? Nope! It gets even worse...but I'd rather spare you all the details. It's just disgusting. I have to hide in my room so I can get away. The problem Seems to be that my mum is a bit of a hoarder and things just seem to be everywhere. My brother is just disrespectful and lazy. I work full time and study around working hours, my mother does the same and my brother studies full time but doesn't pay rent. I contribute to the rent but still live in these conditions.

Don't get me wrong- sometimes the house can be spotless but within a few hours it's back to how it was. Disgusting! If I complain they tell me to clean it. But I wouldn't know where to start! I think that everyone should clean up after themselves but they don't. I've given up even trying so I just leave my dirty dishes where they do because I can't find a spot in the sink for them! I'm so ashamed to invite my friends in and it's affected a relationship I've recently come out of- and he only saw the half of it!

I can't take anymore but moving out isn't an option just yet until I finish paying off my studies in a couple of months. I just want to know if anyone else has this issue, because I feel so ashamed :(

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  • Lost4Thought
    12 years ago

    Honey im sorry this is going on. But what i would do is get your mothers attention about this immediately because that is not ok and its so unhealthy for all of you. Your brother needs to man up and smoke outside which ever the weather may be. Its how you all can get sick over this and that's not good. Your mom needs to realize this right away and not have you do it. Make it a family thing. And go through things that she wants and needs but some has got to go and not pushed in closets. I hope this helps and good luck sweetie.

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  • TyLee
    12 years ago

    My boyfriend is in this exact situation. His family is just disgusting. He has talked to them many many times but they don't care. After breakfast they leave their leftovers on the table, they don't clean. If the dog or cat goes to the bathroom on the floor they leave it until it just blends into the carpet, forget about organization if they go shopping they literally throw stuff into the fridge or pantry, they have piles of junk everywhere and more terrible things. You can't walk without shoes there either. Tiles are missing, the paint is peeling, cabinets are hanging off etc. Anyway you are not alone!!! But the only thing to do is to get out. Don't waste any more money helping with rent!!!! Save it to help yourself get out of there!!!

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  • flax
    12 years ago

    Try find a share option or group with other uni students and split rent - it will be better for you, your health.

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  • LovelyNana
    5 years ago

    Hello, first of all I'm so sorry for you, I am in the same situation as you. All my family members are disgusting, my mom says she will clean her mess and never really does, she is also a hoarder and cant seem to get rid of her mess, she even has a storage room full of things we don't need.
    I'm planning on moving because i cant take the situation anymore, I study and work, but sometimes I am to tired to deal with my family situation, most of the time I'm inside the room I share with my 2 sisters and mom, I recently bought my own bed because I couldn't take the mess anymore and not being able to sleep properly, I feel for you because I am in the same situation and I understand how you feel. Even when I talk with my mother and family about it, they don't get it and think I am exaggerating.
    Sometimes I cry because is just too much of a mess, sometimes you cant even walk, so I totally understand how you feel, Is not normal.

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  • Brian-hose
    9 years ago

    I hate messy people , just lazyness

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  • ben&jerry<3
    12 years ago

    I personally am a neat freak. However I have two friends who's families are the same way. They actually criticized me for being TOO clean!! One of their families raises baby goats (cutest thing ever) EXCEPT that the goats shit on the floor of their house and they don't clean it up!!

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  • sandinmyambergerbuns
    12 years ago

    i am in the same situation. my family is a bunch of slobs and never pick their shit up! its awful! i hate that i can never have friends over because i am so ashamed of it. Because i am in college i only live here like 3 months of the year now but i hate it so much. I just cant stand it because my mom is so lazy and refuses to do any cleaning. I cant wait till the day i get to move out for good

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  • kiarami
    12 years ago

    Im so sorry for you

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