Is it normal that my ex has our 3 year old daughter sleeping...

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Is it normal that my ex has my daughter sleeping on his brothers couch in his room? His brother is just about to turn 17. Me and my ex have 60/40 patenting time/ custody agreement. My ex lives with his parents and his 2 brothers. He doesn't have his own room, he sleeps on the couch in the living room. He had our daughter sleeping in his parents room on the floor but his dad sleeps naked. I told him it was unexceptable, he moved her his uncles room. I know teenage boys do things.... Should I try and make it so she doesn't spend nights over there and take full custody or am I over reacting? Tell me your thoughts.

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  • emmawesome9
    12 years ago

    I don't think a 3 year old should be constantly living in that environment. I mean, being by someone who sleeps naked then moved onto a couch or a floor? Talk to the father about a better environment so that he can still see his child but you won't be worrying at the same time.

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  • svchimp
    12 years ago

    Well he didn't have a job the whole time we were married. Every job he has had he has been fired from. I dont take any child support because he has nothing. I actually have to pay him child support. My ex is the classic lazy dead beat. He can't even get up the energy to brush his teeth in the morning, so his teeth are falling out. He loves his daughter but I don't think he is in the right state of mind to take care of a child. I got an lawyer yesterday. :( to all the dads out there like him. Grow up and take care of yourselves. So women like me don't have to break your heart.

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  • narutothesouleater
    12 years ago

    i am 17 and i would never think of doing anything to a 3 year old, you should stop beileving the media and actually understand that teens don't usualy do that sort of thing. So i think you should just calm down a bit.

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    • Painfulnote
      12 years ago

      I am aware that a 'teenage' would think of doing something to a 3 year old child,also parents are not the ones who could be polluted or fooled by what you call it "the media".

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  • r3cpo
    6 years ago

    he is trying to make you happy by moving her to another room .

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  • Caryopteris
    10 years ago

    Why do women sleep with deadbeats anyway? And if they do, why get pregnant? That's what makes no sense to me.

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  • StrawberryTurtle
    10 years ago

    she might get sexualy assaulted.Let her sleep w/ u

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  • sosueme
    12 years ago

    No it is not normal. The child needs a bed and a room. If he can't provide it contact the courts and get custody. he can have visitation but not overnights until he has a proper living situation.

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  • DogsDogsDogs!
    12 years ago

    Your ex is a retard

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  • ForgetMeNot666
    12 years ago

    Take full custody of her UNLESS he moves out of his parents home, gets a place of his own (like someone at his age should) & buys your daughter her own bed to sleep on.

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    • ploop
      12 years ago

      what if she took all his money? i think that happens a lot when people split up. so i dont think you should be saying things like "gets a place of his own (like someone at his age should)" might be hard cause he has to pay for the kid he gets to see 4 days of the week or something like that.

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      • Maggie143
        12 years ago

        as the op said, he is a dead beat and she has to pay him child support. so yes he should get a place of his own.

        I don't know what the laws are in your area but in my area each child is required to have a certain amount of square footage and a bed of their own. I would say get full custody of your daughter. I was messed with as a child and it does lasting damage.

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  • joybird
    12 years ago

    She's only a small child so if he's on the couch why can't she sleep on a chair? Or give her the couch and he could sleep on the floor? Or he could swap with his brother while she's there if she needs to go to sleep earlier. This is just a little haphazard and your child needs routine - regardless of any potential risk to her!

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