Is it normal that my daughter wants to be a housewife?

My husband and I have been happily married for 14 years and we have only one child, a daughter who has recently informed us that she does not wish to have a career and wants to drop out of school. Instead she wants to get married and become a submissive cleaning, cooking, raising the children type housewife.

A bit about my daughter, she first met her current boyfriend when they she was 10 years old at school. He asked her out when she was 13 years old. We found out she was sexually active at 14 years old when we walked in on them accidentally. We realised that they were teenagers and we could not stop them from having sex instead we encouraged her to be open, mature and use protection. I would like to emphasise the point that my daughter does not sleep around and has not dated another boy.

Our daughter turned 16 years old last month and is currently in grade 11 her second last year of high school, she studies English, Art, Music and Dance. She is more of an artistic musical creative girl rather than a scientific minded girl so we supported her decision to not take any maths or science subjects this year. Not to sound boastful but our daughter is a beautiful girl and attracts a lot of attention from boys, she is quite popular and has many friends. She is a quiet girl but not shy, she only speaks when she has something important to say. Her nature is quite calm, kind, friendly and very caring she has many friends and no enemies.

My daughter’s boyfriend on the other hand was quite the troublemaker he is currently 17 years old. He was sent to juvenile detention when he was around 11 for non-violent charges. We would always hear about his mischievous acts at school. He would get into trouble but it was never at the expense of another person he was not a bully. It was mainly due to mucking around in class, talking too much or breaking school property. He was also into a lot of sports rugby, running, boxing, hockey, soccer, cricket and swimming. He dropped out of school last year and joined the Australian Army he was placed into Officer training and graduated a few months ago as a Lieutenant. He lives in his own house and his own car. He gets a decent amount of money around $100,000 a year on top of the discounts and benefits he gets as a soldier. He has settled down a lot from his past, he is a respectful, well-mannered, active, polite, responsible and mature boy.

Two weeks ago my daughter gave birth to a baby boy and has since then become engaged to her boyfriend. We allowed her time off school to settle the baby down. Her boyfriend has been completely supportive and has paid for everything. It was a shock pregnancy as we only discovered she was pregnant when she was already 8 months into the pregnancy, due to the position of the baby she had not developed a noticeable bulge. My daughter now lives with her boyfriend in his house. She is quite submissive and will happily give him whatever he wants including sex, cooking, cleaning or anything else. Recently she told us that she will not go back to school or do any training courses as she does not want to get a job and instead wants to remain a housewife.

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Comments ( 11 )
  • My opinion?

    Full time parenting is a demanding and respectful job, no matter which parent does it. It most certainly is not "submissive." Any parent who has done it would be very offended by that claim.

    I'm more concerned about the rest of the story. It makes me sad that she missed out on childhood.

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    • 69

      i fully agree with what you said first

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  • kelili

    She's so young.

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  • There's nothing submissive about being a cleaning, cooking, raising the children type housewife.

    The women that do it are proud of what they do.

    People need to get this black and white bullshit out of their heads. It has been planted their by feminist propaganda, it started out with noble intention and has now become nothing short of "poison to women". A housewife isn't a degraded woman, it's one of the most important jobs there is.

    No self respecting woman would be caught dead with modern feminists, they're just another ku klux klan, out to lynch.

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  • dom180

    She might have to get a job if she wants to afford the baby. I doubt her boyfriend earns enough to keep paying for everything.

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  • 53739

    Sounds like you should have done something earlier, considering she already has a child and lives with her boyfriend and has made up her mind about not returning to school.

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  • Alice97

    Wanting to be a housewife in itself isn't a bad aspiration for a girl. I know plenty of stay-at-home moms who are completely fulfilled being just that, and many of them were married young.

    Things could get dangerous though if your daughter gets burnt out and isn't having her needs met by her husband. It's hard to say without knowing them both.

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  • Sog

    If they are living on their own and the boyfriend/fiance is able to support all of them on his salary, then I'm not going to judge them by their young age.

    Raising children is a ton of work, and I don't see how she would even be able to go back to finish school right now even if she wanted to. I would just let her be for now and then talk to her about it again in a year when the child is older and things are more settled.

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  • J3553

    She needs to go back and finish high school because who knows what will happen in the next 2, 5, 10 years. She needs to have the ability to be independent if the situation arises. That's your job as a parent. She's not ready yet.

    I don't see anything wrong with wanting to be a housewife (or a househusband for that matter). Some people would rather bring up their children and make sure their family is happy in every way they can while someone else provides the money. Maybe she'll give her

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  • imadragon

    It doesn't seem like she is mature enough yet.

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  • Terence_the_viking

    As long as she knows it's not an easy ride.

    Being a house wife is a 24/7 job.

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