Is it normal that my dad yelled at me in this way?

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I was helping my dad, who had had a solo alcohol mission the previous night, with some emails, and some navigation elements were being slow to load. I told him we were capped until the following day, and his mood simply SWITCHED. He ordered me to turn the computer off and we went to his annex house which essentially had different internet. He proceeded to make various quips about my mum (who I love way more than him and is way more intelligent) and her weight, cooking ability, her mental state and said he hated her guts, which was pretty distressing (They're not divorced and I haven't seen any sign of marital instability apart from the odd fight til now)

This continued for two hours till he essentially got it out of his system, during which time he called my brother a smart-ass, insulted my friends, and various friends of them he hadn't met, he told of family members on my mum's side being assholes and going to mental institutions, he said he felt "immensely stupid" for investing in the internet and other tech stuff when it didn't work, (We only got capped 3 days before the rollover date, not bad for 15gb a month). TBH I don't think I took any of what he said any more seriously than he did.

He also refused to have a full stop in a password (he had to) as he said "he was a businessman not a typist". (He's tech-tarded as fuck. I'm not joking also.)

It's as if he was looking for a reason to yell. I can't deny the legitimacy of some of what he said, mainly the economic concerns (We are in some hard times in that realm) but he constantly spouted out rationalizations on why it was my fault. He called me a thief for some reason I can't remember. (I haven't stolen from him ever)

My mum says he has ADHD and Dyslexia, both "undiagnosed", though I think he has Autism rather than the former. The two reasons why I think this: 1. He's fucking WEIRD. 2. He called my mum autistic in the heat of an argument once, which she is nowhere near, and

He's basically an impossible guy.

Is he going crazy, senile, or is he just stupid?

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    adjust earplugs...tell him he is mean and you cant listen to things that harm you, ask him "are you trying to hurt me?" get answer to this or no talkees

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  • Naughtygirl147
    8 years ago

    Well medically he may have PTSD over something or ADHD or again I'd have to have him as a patient for this but I believe he may just have anger issues and bipolar but since he's not my patient I can't verify a diagnosis.Id say you take him to a therapist or psychological doc and see what may be going on

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  • Avant-Garde
    11 years ago

    From what I read, your father doesn't meet the requirements for adult Aspergers, dyslexia or ADHD. He just seems to have a problem controlling his mood.

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  • Devyn
    11 years ago

    Other comments have covered the main points in this post and I agree with them, so I will concentrate on the last bit about mental issues and your apparent confusion with them.

    ADHD is where you find it difficult to pay attention and feel the need to fiddle with things all the time, this seems unrelated to your father's outburst.

    Dyslexia is where you have writing and spelling difficulties. It means you find it very difficult to learn spellings by just memorising them, but can be just as good at spelling by being taught in a different way. Having had dyslexia may have lowered your father's self esteem, but it is no reason for his outburst.

    Autism isn't a disability so much as a difference in the way the brain works. Autistic people are more logical and often take things very literally (helpful in maths and programming, not so much in life). They have difficulty understanding social situations and so tend to be socially awkward. Extremely autistic people effectively live in their own little worlds in their heads, but most autistic people comprehend and live in the real world too. Extremely autistic people appear mentally retarded and so autism is occasionally used as a derogatory term. It is unlikely that your father meant anything more by it than just an insult when he was arguing with your mother.

    I do not think that your father has any of these things, he probably just has low self esteem and is under a lot of stress. He is in difficult financial circumstances and nothing seems to be going right (like the internet). He doesn't feel that this is his fault so he feels and angry and helpless so he lashes out blame at people and feels the need to complain all the time.

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  • Cheradenine
    11 years ago

    No, that aint normal, wether he thinks those things or not, you spend spend 2 fucking hours giving your son/daughter a tirade of abuse about his/her mother, siblings, freinds or things that arent their fault. Hes a fucking moron, and you dont have to take that from someone when you dont deserve it, especially a parent. Not knowing him i cant tell you if he has psychological problems, but regardless, it wouldnt be much of an excuse

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  • Mason554
    11 years ago

    You dads a duche

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  • jitterbug66
    11 years ago

    I think he just needs to get it out of his system. Just ask him to not do it to you.

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  • 800imawesome
    11 years ago

    He's bi-polar. Or has MPD.

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