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Like i have always wanted to get my tongue pierced and he always asks why is it to rebel against me. Or i like to wear eyeliner and he says tou put that on as a sign of rebellion against me huh.
Well, He's probably right. Why do you wear eyeliner?( i'm guessing you're a dude) and want your tongue pierced? Is it to show your individuality? To reject societies norms? To not be confined by others view of how you should appear? Or in other words rebelling.
Yeah man, don't listen to those fucking haters. It was a good comment. Thumbs up.
....How?
He basically restated what the OP said. Regurgitation = brilliance?
Hey douche bag. How the fuck is what i wrote even vaguely similar to what the op said? He asked if it is normal for his dad to always think he's rebelling. I voted yes and replied that his father is correct, he is rebelling, and explained how. Regurgitation? I don't claim to be "brilliant" or even remarkably intelligent but I'm smart enough to recognize a fuckin ignorant hater when i see one.
Your finding your boundaries and he wants you to be a kid. Ya it's normal. The question is why do you want to do these things, depending on your motives it might be rebellion, then again it might not
1.Thou shalt pay public homage to the god favored by the local majority without giggling or even smiling behind your hand.
2.Thou shalt not make any graven image of a sort that could annoy the powers that be, especially Mrs. Grundy"
3.Thou shalt not take the name of the Lord God in vain...which means don't swear, not even Jiminy or Golly or Darn, or use any of those four letter words, or anything that Mother might consider vulgar."
4.Go to church on Sundays. Smile and be pleasant but don't be too smarmily a hypocrite...support the church by deeds and money, but not too conspicuously.
5.Honor thy father and mother where anyone can see you. But once you leave home, live your own life. Don't let them lead you around by the nose."
6.Thou shalt not commit murder, murder is killing someone wrongly. Other forms of killing come in several flavors and each sort must be analyzed."
7.Thou shalt not get caught commiting adultery...and that means don't get pregnant, don't catch a social disease, don't let Mrs. Grundy even suspect you, and don't let your spouse find out ...[ or ] tell your husband what is biting you, ask his permission, ask for his help, ask him to stand jigger for you."
8.Thou shalt not steal. "I couldn't improve that one, Father" "Would you steal to feed a baby? [There are] other exceptions... but it is a good general rule."
9.Lie well or dont lie at all. It is better to be a thief than a person who tells the truth all the time, regardless of how inappropriate it may be.
10.Why is there a rule against coveting your neighbors wife, but not a word against coveting your neighbor's husband?
11.Don't get caught
12.Promises must be kept, especially ones made to children. So think three times before making one. In case of tiniest doubt, don't promise.
Robert Heinlein.
It's a bit like sex ... every generation thinks that they invented it!
Ask your dad how he tried to rebel - I'm sure you'll get a laugh if he tells you!
However, imagine being his age with a pierced tongue or eyeliner ;o) Ridiculous eh? Yep - well that's how he sees you too.
You're lucky he cares enough to tell you how silly you are and not one of those lazy parents who doesn't give a shit what you get up to. Then you may end up with blood poisoning, chipped teeth and a reputation for being a gay boy who wears make up.
The poor man is only trying to protect you from yourself until you grow up :o)
He should have an adult conversation with you on why you want to do these things instead of taking the easy way out and putting everything you want to do under rebellion.
Start sneaking out of your window every night. Pretend you went to a college party when you were really behind the bushes smearing your black liner all over your eyes like a dirty raccoon. Stumble through the back door he'll be waiting for you in the dark on the La-z-boy and ask, "Why is it to rebel against me!"
It's less about you and more about your father, actually. Remember that parents have an image in the community to uphold and when you as the child begin to experiment with your own preferences, you are bound to "embarrass" the parents amongst their own peer group.
In other words, parents *like* to think that everything every child does is a reflection of them and them alone, is all about them as the parent, is solely directed at them as the parent, and somehow "means" something. Some parents really take this to an extreme and accuse kids of doing things merely to make them angry, and accuse the kids of literally "thinking up ways to irritate us."
There are two considerations here:
1) Some children do find ways to rebel against parent control
2) Some parents are so self-absorbed, they think any and every action of all people around them is about, because, and directed at them and them alone.
Dying your hair, having piercings, getting tattoos, choosing certain types of attire and hairstyles all do make a statement and there's really nothing wrong with that. Sooner or later both you and he will have to realize that this is normal in most Western cultures, and that not everything is "all about me" for the parent and you'll have to be honest about what you do and when it's to get a reaction or because you really just like something.
Just explain to him that you do it not to rebel against him, but because you genuinely like it. If he still thinks you're rebelling then at least you tried.
Rebellion is a sign of intelligence, trying to repress it is a sign of authoritarianism. You do you and don't let anyone stand in your way!