Is it normal that my dad's girlfriend is 20 and he is 48?
Sorry it's long!
my dad's girlfriend is 20. and he is 48. I have a rocky past with my dad, he is a horrible man. he cheated on my mother for 15 years, and always seems to have more than one girlfriend. He also used to hit me, and my brothers, and when my mum divorced him, he got together with the girl he'd cheated on her with, but soon after I think he just left her. It's so hard to explain, but he manipulates women, and makes them worship him, so they become so obsessed with him they'll do anything he wants. then he uses them for his pleasure. I asked him to stop seeing her, but he refused, so I stopped seeing him. I basically said 'It's me or her' and he chose her. I know from what I've told you he sounds horrible, he is, but I love him, he's my dad, and he was sometimes a great dad to me. I never really knew about the affairs, but he was still sometimes a great father. he's has stopped his rages, and he doesn't hit, but now he has this new girlfriend. but it gets worse. he is a piano teacher, and she was his student. he's known her since she was 13, and her father is his best friend. her parents have been manipulated and now worship him, and are completely fine with him being with their daughter. and recently, He had dinner with another one of his students, she is also 20, and actually one of his girlfriends friends. he swears that it's just old friends catching up, but knowing him, he will probably lure her in too. I think it's sick, but if you can just understand that on the outside, he can be a great dad to us. but he is also bad in that he doesn't pay child support for his three kids because he is jealous of my mums fiance, who he thinks will get money if he pays. my step dad is brilliant, he provides us with a house, and is a real father figure for us. My dad lies to courts so he doesn't have to pay child support, and then goes on five holidays a year, 3 of them with his new girlfriend. But my brothers don't see this, they love my father, look up to him, and think he's great. they are completely fine with his girlfriend, I was the only one who eventually put my foot down. do you think I was right to do this? he says that it is his life, and he can do what he wants. but he is ruining these womens life and they are too young and naive to see that. another thing is, he seems to have a thing for asian women. my mother is asian, the women he cheated on my mother with is asian, and his current girl is asian. I think he thinks he can play with them and treat them like crap. I hate him, but I love him! I'm so confused, and what I really need is a decision. Should I ignore everything and focus on him being my father? or forget him? I've tried forgetting him, and it's hard. my brothers still see him, and hate me because I hate him. I'm in a real pickle, and I need some unbiased advice. thanks, sorry it's long, it's kind of a life story.