Is it normal that my dad gets touchy feely with me when he drinks?

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My dad has always been a touchy-feely drunk... meaning he usually is inappropriate with other females: hitting on them in front of my mom (esp my friends), hugging everyone, making perverted comments. I never really thought anything of it until this weekend when we were at my parents pool and he kept grabbing my legs underwater. I asked him to stop and he wouldn't so I literally had to slap him so he'd stop. On the way home my boyfriend mentioned that it made him extremely uncomfortable and then the next day my mom said something about how he can be too inappropriate with me and my friends.

I love my dad and he has never done anything sexual with me, but I do agree that sometimes he makes me uncomfortable when he drinks.

This is the first time this has ever come up and I am 26 years old. I'm worried about hurting my dads feelings, but my boyfriend is unwilling to be around him now. How am I supposed to confront this?

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  • Dad
    11 years ago

    So you say your dad is out of control when he's drunk?
    Strangest thing ever.
    After a long think about it (ok I replied immediately) just ask him not to get drunk (drunk you say?) around you or your friends, as people tend to lose control of their mind and body movements a bit. Hey, this is just like your situation.

    Note: You could have just wrote my Dad gets drunk around me and my friends. And I would have replied, why? Is he an alcoholic? Generally 'dads' don't get drunk, tipsy ok, but drunk? Is this a young Dad?

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    Oh, also don't let drunk people in the pool underwater. Thankfully he grabbed on to your legs to save his life!

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  • Justsomejerk
    11 years ago

    Your dad has a problem and if you want him in your life you have to talk to him about it. Until he admits he has a problem he can't fix it. Until he fixes it you won't want to be around him.

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  • smartpatrol11
    11 years ago

    He is definately a dirty pervert who will probably molest your children when you have them i would keep right away from him

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    • AmyS
      6 years ago

      True story, unfortunately I did not know that this was a warning sign until it was too late. I thought it was normal because my dad has always been a grabby kind of guy towards wemon. Turns out he liked babies too. He touched my daughter and I put him in prison.

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  • Captain_Kegstand
    11 years ago

    Seems a bit of an uncomfortable situation to me. I would either talk to him about it, or not be around when he was drinking.

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  • Avant-Garde
    11 years ago

    Oh, Son of Shitake!

    He sounds like a pervert. You'd all do best to stay away from him.

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  • Airstream3333
    11 years ago

    "dad, do not, NOT, touch me unless i request a hug or something. Your contact sometimes feels uncomfortable to me and seems inappropriate. For this reason, only i initiate it from now on. I am sorry if this hurts your feelings but i love you and want to always be comfortable around you and to continue to visit you, even when you've been drinking. Can you agree to this? Thanks dad. Love ya."

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  • tehfoxyfire
    11 years ago

    omg this is such a bad situation!

    My dad also got touchy with me once at a party he was drinkin and wanted to dance with me, i didnt want to. He said ohh come on. I said no. He then grabbed my arm and began to pull me. I resisted. He pulled harder and began to drag me out of my chair. The chair fell to the floor. I wasnt strong enough to lose his grip so I started screaming. It was a horrible feeling, something about the way he touched me just made me feel so uncomfortable. There was an unspeakable sexual manner which he approached me. It was just...ugh:(

    you should stay away from him as much as you can when he drinks (and keep an eye out too when he doesnt), given his background and history. really, be very careful, and like someone said if you do have children especially

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  • 0404
    11 years ago

    One. These things should not go on. talk to your mum and see what she can do about this also talk to your boyfriend.
    Two. Stay away when your dad is drinking. Or have your Boyfriend stay over for saftey!

    good luck! :D

    And sorry to say but your dad is in the wrong.

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  • karma_is_bs
    11 years ago

    I'm sorry you have to deal with this. Maybe he didn't mean anything by it, but you need to let him know how creepy and inappropriate he was being or he'll keep doing it.

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  • analmaster1
    11 years ago

    Daddy is stifling his urges...run

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  • taylor-mae14
    11 years ago

    im going to say this as someone who was in the same position. i did noting and it got worse. and i fully regret it. ive never told anyone. and its hard to evn think about. i dont speak to him now and if i where ever to fix my relashionship with him e would never be left alone with my childern.

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  • pixie_dust
    9 years ago

    ur dad is a sexual predator..

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